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ratimadan

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About ratimadan

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    Sexploration
  • Birthday 10/06/1950

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  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    USA
  • Interests
    Travel, cruises, sports, music and sexual pursuits.
  • Occupation
    Fun but not too serious.
  • Swinging Experience
    4 years

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  • SLS Name
    ratimadan
  • Favorite Club(s)
    Red Rooster

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  1. Well put. To us it is foreplay followed by intercourse with the other m/f as the case may be. Sexting is a very powerful tool and should be used with discretion when sexting to the opposite sex. We do not sext between us two (husband/wife) since her phone is company phone and can be monitored. It used to be that you could carry out dirty talk with the wife/hubby of another couple on the regular phone before the sexting era.We did this regularly beyween a few couples while the her/him could listen in the risque chat that implied foreplay, clitoral play and fucking the other wife/husband. Now we also use it to a willing female/male that may be a vanilla to see if he/she is willingto play. You can bring her/him to orgasm and ejaculation with strong sext. Then its is upto you to propose a real meet with the couple for play and plain old fucking.
  2. We have not been on a swinger cruise yet, though, intend to do so soon. However, we have vacationed at quite a few swinger lifestyle resorts. At the resorts, we have been asked by other couples if we would like to play. There was never any pressure to play with and swap partners for sex. If one wanted to play, that was fine; if not a simple "no thanks" was always honored in the best traditions of the Lifestyle. The Lifestyle cruises should not be any different. In other words, playing with other couples and swapping mates for sex, is entrirely upto you as a couple. No need to be embarassed or feel out of place, if you do not swing. Our suggestion-go on the cruise and enjoy the sexually charged atmosphere with your wife.
  3. Good report based on research and worth reading. Not sure that it sheds much light on the divorce rate among swingers. There are too many variables to come to any firm conclusion regarding whether or not swingers have a lower rate of divorce than the general population. The one conclusion we see is that swingers are generally happy with their choice and seem to enjoy multiplae sex partners.
  4. Swinging has definitely improved our self confidence in social situations where we meet other couples. During a conversation, both of us individually, can discreetly communicate to the other female or male that I/she finds her or him sexually attractive. We have learned how to convey the message "I would love to have sex with you" which translates in colloquial language that I would love to play with you and fuck you to orgasm. We would never have been able to do this to a person of opposite sex before we got into swinging. Now it's a different ball game. The swinging mindset has also allowed us to be discreet yet explicitly express our sexual desires towards each other and also toward someone ( a couple) we just met and would love to swap mates with and have sexual intercourse with his wife or hubby, mate or SO, that is, someone other than one's own mate.
  5. We love to send and receive erotic messages to and from our playmetes and prospective playmates, that are discrete but fully suggestive of foreplay and sexual intercourse with the other couple's wife/hubby/SO. This gets our juices flowing until we meet for real and then play, swap mates and then fuck the other couple's spouse or mate.
  6. We do not see anything wrong about swinging with cousins and their wives so long as you enjoy swapping partners, playing and having sexual intercourse between the men and women who is not the wife. The one precaution, as has already been pointed out, is to make sure the women are on pills, and men use condoms during intercourse, unless they (men) are safe (vascetomized) to prevent pregenancy. But, this is the general rule when you swap mates with any couple (cousins or not) and intend to fuck each other's mate.
  7. What a great post! Well thought out, and tells it like it is. The key (or draw lot for your sex partner) parties can be exciting for the very reason that they avoid the "analysis paralysis" implicit in today's or modern day swinging. An older couple (now in their late 60's, early 70s) told us how their bridge parties, in their younger days, 25 or more years ago, evolved into something akin to a key party. It was the ladies who wanted to experience sex with their bridge partner/s (who was not her hubby) and brought up the idea of play and sexual intercourse depending upon which couple won or lost the game. The pairing of the couples for sex was therefore more or less random and all had great fun without getting into the analysis/paralysis of who she/he wanted to or did not want to fuck.
  8. Go with the flow without any expectations and see what happens. Perhaps you will end up playing, swapping mates and fucking each other's spouse for good measure. If you do not play and full swap mates, hopefully you will have had a great time with the couple short of sexual intercourse.
  9. Perhaps, that's the way to put it honestly and bluntly, but I would rather not throw fuel on fire! Counceling the wife is beyond our ken. Perhaps, psychological counceling with a sex therapist might help. However, I did point out (when we met and things had cooled off somewhat) very gently, that young adult girls and boys are no longer virgins when they marry. Likely, "your daughters and their hubbies have engaged in sexual intercourse with other males/females prior to marriage". Moreover, I said, swinging and swapping mates with other couples for sexual intercourse is gaining acceptance in the society (no longer a stigma) for couples young and old, and with the younger generation, particularly. What is important is that the young married couples are happy and contented with their social and sexual life. The underlying message: the world has changed and recreational sex for a couple with other partner/s, one is not married to, has gained acceptance and is definitely not considered a "sin". Hopefully, the mother got the message. We have been good vanilla friends with this couple, particularly, us ladies. Not too surprising that she vented her anger, and, it could be that she was looking for some rationale from a good friend she trusts to calm her agitated mind.
  10. If you use acronyms, have a footnote explaining what they mean, please! We could not figure out if C meant a cock or cunt. We were completely floored when we read the OP.
  11. VegasLee, your hit the nail on the head. A single unattached woman, or unicorn, if she is hetero, prefers a single male to play with and have sex. If she is bi she can find bi women. But she will consider playing with and fucking a married man provided she is comfortable with the female half of the couple. And the key is that the wife is not a bi woman that competes for her attention. In our situation, the wife is strictly hetero and has no interest in a bi female. A unicorn who is also a "swinger" is an oxymoron. As a female, the unicorn is interested in enjoying glorious sex with a man. Swap is not a word in her dictionary. Our experience is that a "unicorn" is easy to find in the vanilla society and among your wife's friends and colleagues. The few unicorns we (the hubby) have played with found us, not the other way around. Most asked the wife if they could play with and have sex with the hubby. A single woman will prefer a couple where she can fuck the man provided she is comfortable with and has known the wife. That gives her an extra sense of security that she may not otherwise have with a single man. I have always enjoyed play and sexual intercourse with an unattached woman (aka unicorn) with wife's knowledge and consent. If you treat her with respect and consideration she deserves, for opening up her pussy, to accomodate your dick she might even give you referrals to some of her girlfriends. In our case, she called up one of her friends on the west coast where we were visiting to introduce us. The two of us, her friend, a single lady and I had awesome sex. Mad (Male Half)
  12. Key parties are certainly plausible. Most all couples at one time or another talk about them and act on the concept depending upon the circumstances. We as a group haven't exactly had key parties where you decide who you swap partners with for sex for the night depending upon whose name you draw. We have, however, drawn names out of a hat on most occasions to decide who sits next to who at dinner, or, who rides in a car with who when riding in a group. The unwritten rule was, and still is, that you sit next to someone, at dinner or party, male or female, other than your own spouse. Most ladies and men got a kick out of this arrangement. The gals got particularly excited and giggled about whose dick they might accomodate in their pussies. The actual mate swapping for play and intercourse was another matter. The key or draw lot parties seem to work in a small group where everyone knows everyone else. In a large group you may not want to fuck someone's name you draw at random.
  13. Very true! That's our experience too. You don't find unicorns in the wild. We have found them from social connections-work, social (nonswinger) groups, you name it. Just keep your eyes and ears open and you will find them. It certainly helps to have a hubby that's friendly, outgoing, handsome and sexy.
  14. Thats why fucking J (the mom) will remain just a harmless dream for hubby. They are a fine couple for socializing but not for swapping mates to have sexual intercourse with.
  15. Unicorns are not as rare as you would think. We consider an unattached woman who would love to play and get fucked by hubby a unicorn. I am not bi and she need not be either. If hubby fucks her and has a great time, fine with me. I have been approached by quite a few over the years asking if they could borrow, i.e., fuck hubby, over a weekend. I am the gatekeeper. R (mrs)
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