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chickadiva

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  1. Well, Spoomonkey, luckily our other friends are just that - great friends and fine full swap swingers. So I can take a little density now and again in exchange for some real fun now & again!!
  2. Ahhhh, Spoomonkey, thanks for the laugh! Maybe "heated" was too strong a term. A little back and forth and then we Surrender . It was funny though because they kept insisting that "soft swap" was THE term for two couples doing bi-fem play and only one male allowed (and expecting) to play with both females because one of the females has no interest in any male other than her hubby. Too one-sided for us. :rollseyes Whatever! head bang I don't see the "swap" part, possibly "soft swing", 3some - definite. We have also done threesomes like you mentioned, alternating partners between full-swap couples. In fact I am doing that now while J's deployed. Two couples we know well, and I occasionally join them as the ever elusive single bi-fem. We'll switch around when he gets back home, so he'll get his FMF's and we'll all be even! We also plan some MFM's too...and FFFM's and a mini gang bang too! ~M, the female half
  3. Another interesting but related phenomenon that has us a little more cautious and questioning with those who say "soft swap only" and "not into full swap" is the couple searching for a bi-fem but contacting couples with bi-fems (hinted at in my earlier post). After a few chats and a meeting, just when we think all is going well, we hear from them that "she doesn't do anything with other men" or "she has no desire for a man other than her own" but they assume I (female half) will still play with both of them. As when someone says the female wants absolutely no contact with another male - no touching, no oral, nothing. Then they proceed to get upset with us when we explain that is not a swap of any kind...soft or full. What we've finally realized is to some newbies soft swap meant he swaps, she doesn't. As if "full" is both partners and "soft" is half. Umm, no fair. What's my male half supposed to do, sit home and watch TV?!?!?! This has happened to us a few times, and I suspect we aren't the only ones hearing this too. We actually got into a heated exchange with one couple after we said No to that proposition because it wasn't a swap of any kind but a threesome. They proceeded to tell us we didn't know the lingo! We realize everyone has slight differences in what might be "soft swap", but "full" (or hard) is almost universally full intercourse and we can understand why some aren't ready for that yet. But "swap" is "swap" - it's changing partners or playing with another's partner to the extent all are comfortable. Oh and the couple that got so upset specifically used the word "swap" not "swinging", although most of us use those interchangeably. I recommended if they wanted a threesome or soft swing/original-partner, same-room sex to say that specifically instead of saying "soft swap" which I thought misleading. Has this happened to anyone else? Or are we just...well, just us?! This actually ties into Julie's #3: For soft-swingers... what do you consider soft-swinging?
  4. We're also full swap, but we've done soft as a lead-in on occasion. We don't rule out soft-swap couples, particularly those that say they'd be open to considering full after some time passes. What we don't like are soft-swap couples that try to "borrow" M only for fmf, saying that their female doesn't "want" or "need" other men...oh, but would M play with their male half?!?! Uhhhh.....NO! M (the female half)
  5. Julie and poster_guy are right, it's just a "teaser" name with "Wife Swap". The moms will just run the other household and I really doubt *any* hanky-panky will be implied. Come on, it's ABC! LOL...aren't they a Disney company?! However, on the same thought, did any of you see Nip/Tuck on FX last season? It had a few episodes with lifestyle themes, and although they didn't kill off the characters involved there was some implication of "unsavory" issues and character flaws. But the house party episode was certainly, um, titillating!
  6. I'm with FredandWilma on this one....if the dates "Neil" gave are correct, it is too soon for her to be pregnant from those sexual acts. I am not saying she's not pregnant, just that this escapade with the unknowing donor isn't the actual conception. There are plenty of sources out there (ovusoft, fertility friend, TCOYF), but I can tell you from my own research and experience it takes anywhere from 3-8 DAYS beyond ovulation and fertilization for the egg to implant into the uterus...and it is impossible to determine the exact moment of ovulation, hence the 12-24hr. "window" of egg life often quoted. (oh, and for those of you that don't know it sperm can live anywhere from hours to up to 5 days inside a woman, depending upon her cervical fluid status...so you can have sex on Wednesday yet "conceive"/fertilize on Saturday) It's isn't until after implantation that HCG is produced. That is the hormone you are looking for when you "pee on a stick"! It's also what they look for in the blood test. That is why most early pregnancy tests say they are good as soon as day of missed period or three days prior, etc. So, if she's preggers y'all miss calculated ovulation and either Neil or ??? (yet again someone else?) is the father. I think someone is trying to raise our collective blood pressure!
  7. It's highly arousing for us both, and we have the most fantastic sex together afterward in our reconnect. Oh yeah....... The only time there may be issues (or have been issues) is when we can't participate as a voyeur as see the other's reactions and pleasure. We prefer situations where we are physically close enough "see", but it's not always possible for various reasons. Of course that means we just try harder to please each other later!
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