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  1. I had a vasectomy about 25 years ago. The procedure was quick with minimal pain and there wasn't any impact on the amount of ejaculate. Consider having it done on a Friday so you can spend the weekend watching TV with an ice pack on your crotch. The wife always struggled with the effect the pill had on her hormones so my taking the lead on sterilization made sense. It also made sex more spontaneous; no more running for the diaphragm when the spirit moved us. Also, I find female play partners appreciate it. It removes any concerns about pregnancy, and they are more welcoming of bareback play if that is on the table. So all these years later I'd say it was a great move. Best of luck with your decision!
  2. Here's a follow up to my original question. I used STDcheck.com to arrange for the testing. They offer a 10 panel test for $198.00, covering HIV type 1 & type 2 antibody/antigen (4th gen), herpes type 1 & type 2, hepatitis A, hepatitis B & hepatitis C, chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis. After setting up an account and making your online payment, you choose Quest or Labcorp for your blood draw, and then you print a certificate for that lab that describes the tests to be done and to indicate you've already paid for the tests. Because it's a simple blood draw, you don't need to schedule an appointment (which can further protect your identity, if that's important to you); you can walk in, present the certificate, and then wait for your blood draw. I scheduled an appointment just to be sure I wouldn't have to wait. I went to Labcorp, presented the certificate, and they did the blood draw. Total time there was less than 10 minutes. The medical assistant was very nice (and chatty). I received my results in my account mailbox the next day. (All clear!) That was surprisingly fast but it may be because I live in a major city and lab facilities are abundant. While the cost felt a bit steep, the experience was easy and quick.
  3. There's lots of support for getting testing and many swingers say the do it regularly. How do you get tested? Doctor's office? General lab? Mail order? Something else? What do you get tested for (HIV, hepatitis, etc.)? How frequently? What's the cost? Hope that's not too many questions!
  4. I'll (male half) echo what others have said here--that you may find it difficult to actively seek a poly relationship... that you may have more luck letting it come to you. That was our experience. Naturally, I have my primary relationship with my wife. We also have many mutual friends, one of whom is a single female. I was the closest to her and we would get together regularly (with my wife's knowledge) without there being any physical element to the relationship. Eventually, we all became closer as friends and then one evening we all mutually agreed to break the physical boundary, so to speak. It wasn't a conscious effort to make this happen; our relationship simply evolved that way. The relationship continues to ebb and flow. So maybe there's someone you're already close to who could be a possibility for an expanded relationship--one that evolves from a traditional friendship into something more--with a little nudging on your part. I would love to hear how things are going since your original post.
  5. Every once in a while, we run across an ad that states a couple or female is seeking a male partner who is "well hung." But just as often that term remains undefined. So, when you think of the term "well hung," what does that mean to you?
  6. Sheesh. How embarrassing is that? [Hunting feverishly for the "t" key and a king size bottle of disinfectant....] I suppose I could edit my message, but where would the fun be in that?
  7. One other thing to consider regarding MFM is what happens afterwards. When I've been invited into a threesome as "stunk cock" (I like that term!), I invariable talk with the couple after the big event. That's when I learn that, while the threesome was an erotic blast, the play they have afterwards between just the two of them is even more intense! Then I'm the one who's jealous!
  8. I've done it once as the second male with a couple. She was used to anal, so that wasn't a question. I never really felt I was that close to the other male but, even if I was, it wouldn't have been an issue for me. Personally, I didn't get a whole lot out of it other than the satisfaction of knowing we were giving her pleasure. I would do it again in a heartbeat.
  9. I did it once...during phone sex. Just wanted to get it over with, since it was a bore.
  10. You may be saying the same thing, but let me be explicit about it... Don't share the names of your reference without their permission. The couple you were with likely asked for discretion, which means you should get their approval first. You need to respect their confidentiality first and foremost, or can be most assured they won't be a reference for long!
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