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  1. Actually, I guess I shouldn't be tooo concerned about having more than a fair share of partners. I've been sexually active since I was 14. I'm 37 now. That's 23 years of sex. If you break it down, that's about 1.3 different people per year. Unless you count last year...then it throws all of the figures off. Hubby says I have to get off the computer now because it's apparent that I've got way too much time on my hands today. LOL He says he has something to take care of my boredom.
  2. 20+men...intercourse and then some.... 10+women...use your imagination.
  3. Sometimes I find that advertising that I'm "bisexual" tends to actually limit our activites with strictly hetero couples. Sometimes when we've met a couple who are completely strait and I tell them that I'm bi...they seem to have recoiled in fear. It's as if the knowledge of what I'm *capable* of doing to the female is too much for them to handle psychologically....regardless if I assure them that I won't do anything that makes either one of them uncomfortable. We have had many wonderful experiences with strait couples. We let them know up front what we're into and they let us know what they're into...and more importantly what they're not. We ended up same room swapping and occasionally same bed...no touching between the women. It's just a matter of communication IMHO.
  4. Dammit...if we can get the lawmakers to stop controlling a woman's body concerning abortion...why can't we do the same thing with drugs? It IS my body and if I want to smoke a joint, do cocaine, or any other party drug....I should be able to. The women's movement made a great argument when it came to abortion....it's HER body...she should be able to do whatever the heck she wants with it. They badgered the government and they WON! I think we need more pot smokers to vote so we can win the next war of the "it's my body and I'll do what I want." Hell, I'd settle for being allowed to drive without a seatbelt at this point.
  5. We're movin' to TEXAS! Nah...lived there too but couldn't handle not having mountains around me. Seriously though, I think we've just had a run of bad luck. Most of the couples that we know (and like) are "soft swingers"...play only between the women or play with your own partner which is fine, because hubby loves that. I do feel bad for him though because the few times that the woman was willing and the man was ok with her swinging.... hubby was just not attracted to her...which is ok too. I don't want him *doing it* just because it's there and feel like crap afterwards about how desparate he was. There was even one couple with an attractive wife that my hubby was finally attracted to where the man wanted *me* but wouldn't even consider my husband touching *her*. That night lasted a whole 15 minutes. I guess it IS a "mentality" thing around here. My husband is very good looking except for a *little* excess weight...but he's not obese...but the only women around here who want him ARE obese and he's just not into it. I don't blame him because I'm not into obese men either. Nothing wrong with them for other folks...but it's just something that turns us off personally. That's ok...we'll wait. When the right couple comes along we'll lasso them and lock them in our closet.
  6. I agree with spoonmonkey. My husband and I had the same problem when we started out. Men are always available and willing and I never lacked for playmates. Hubby told me that he really enjoyed seeing me with other men and I was more than willing to please...LOL. As time wore on however, I learned that he was feeling cheated because there is a serious lack of couples who allow their women to play with the male. I'm of the conviction that attractive single females who play with couples are merely a myth anyway. Hubby brought the fact up in a heated moment that he has *never* been with another woman...while *I* on the other hand have been with countless men. Luckily, we always agree on our encounters before hand and I reminded him that HE was the one who agreed and that I was only doing what WE wanted to do and we could have stopped at any time. He *still* hasn't been with another woman yet, but we have curtailed our male (and couple) playmates to a select few. Sadly, the couples who are willing to play do not allow any contact between the men and the women and the ones who *do* allow contact...well...hubby just isn't attracted to them. If I were you...I would definitely have a looooong talk with hubby and reevaluate the swinging situation. If it's going to cause jealousy, "scorekeeping" and bad feelings...it's time to stop until you both agree on what you want. You should NOT ever feel like you were being pressured into doing this just because hubby was getting a piece of the pie finally. On a further note....drinking to excess and swinging do NOT mix. Sometimes you do things when you're drunk that you feel like shit about the next day....not to mention that when a person is drunk...they are NOT capable of making a responsible or rational decision. I've been there too and learned some hard lessons. Let us know how things turn out!
  7. I'm not exactly sure what you mean when you say that you are amazed at "how many swingers HERE are abortion adverse." From what I've read on the whole thread, most of the people who responded are FOR abortion. There were only a few of us *here* on this thread who would choose to raise a child from an unplanned pregnancy. I for one am personally against abortion but I don't tell others how to live their lives and they can legally choose abortion as a form of birth control if they want...it's just not for us.
  8. If those methods work for you...that's cool. Not every female who swings would feel comfortable with those options though.
  9. And it's a great "what if" to think about. 1) We're very careful whom we choose to play with. This means that their views must be very similar to ours. 2) We discuss these things ahead of time at length. 3) We realize that there are some things that cannot be planned for..so we hope for the best and expect the worst. With that said...I'll answer your question. IF the biological father wanted to be a jerk about it, we would do what we had to do in the best interest of the child. Luckily he could not *force* me to give the child HIS last name...but he *could* go crowing around town that the child was his if he chose to. We would have to cross that bridge when we come to it though. Visitation should not be a problem as I said before...he would be asked to take a background involvement. He would not be called "daddy" but be a very special friend who would be permitted to be there for the child anytime he wants to...unofficially. Now, if he wanted to take me to court, I would hope that he has a LOT of money...because it could get really nasty.... In reality though, I'm confident that the men that we play with would not go to such lengths. They just ain't the daddy type. Some are married and their wives would not be happy about THEIR name getting dragged into the mess. In fact, they would be more than happy to thrust upon us any child that MY hubby would produce with them... let alone allow their husband to demand visitation of a child I'd produce with their husband... For our current regular partner, he's my brother-in-law (step brother in law actually) and he wouldn't DARE open up that can of worms. His mother would kill HIM before she killed me.
  10. This is an interesting subject. My husband and I have discussed this at length. Neither my husband or I are "fixed" and since I am also a smoker..I can't use chemical birth control. Our regular swing parnter is a single man and not V-safe either. IF I would become pregnant we would keep the child and raise it as my husband's...but our swing partner would know the truth and help out with the child as much as possible...from the background. We usually bring these "what ifs" up in a lighthearted conversation with potential swing partners long before we jump into bed with them. We found that discussing issues such as condom use, what to do with a pregnancy, dealing with unexpected feelings for a parner, and other "hard hitters" are necessary before we decide on compatibility. The last thing we want is a partner that refuses to wear a condom at the critical moment, or a man that *insists* that a child will carry his name, or a partner who might fall in love with you.... It's all part of the swinging risks...if you play...somebody might have to pay. We have never been with anyone of a different race or anyone that is sooo different in appearence that it would be hard to hide, so that's not really an issue for us right now. If it would crop up, I'm sure that our decision to raise the child ourselves and let the chips fall where they may would remain the same.
  11. Ugh...585.... I guess a better question would be what kinks *haven't* I done?
  12. Javelin...I feel ya'. We're going to Hedo III in May with a group and I innocently suggested that maybe we could institute some sort of password protected area on the website where people could state upfront what kinds of sexual activity that they were open to....to take out the guess work. Needless to say, there were many responses and none were of the favorable kind. LOL. Oh well...live and learn.
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