flywithus

Hey, DJJWP... notice that we're practically neighbors! Sorry to hear your first encounter was such a disaster. We've had those as well. We actually went to a local restaurant near to our house where the couple that we met with left condoms as a tip to the waitress! I was mortified! Learned our lesson there! We don't meet couples in our "regular" eating establishments anymore! Just in case! LOL

These posts are great! Thanks to all who are responding. Does anyone have any experiences they can share?

Thanks so much for the above post, but let me clarify... I guess my post was confusing. I didn't mean that we'd "play" in a vanilla atmosphere... I meant how and where do you move the "play" to when you're in that atmosphere to begin with. LOL Made me laugh though when you said "people look at ya kinda weird!" LOL Thanks so much! xo

We're not exactly new to swinging, however, we are posed with the same issue over and over. We meet some couples that we've met on different sites outside the "club" scene, i.e., restaurant, bar, etc. Vanilla places. We talk, we decide if we truly are compatible and then, inevitably, the evening is over. Our schedules are tight and we may not get to see them again for weeks or even months! We leave KNOWING we wanted to play, but in the restaurant/vanilla bar scene... well... play just doesn't happen. Here's the question: If you meet someone for the first time over dinner and drinks and the attraction is obviously "around the table", how do you suggest that you might want to get a hotel room or go back to their place (or ours) without offending the other couple on a first date? What are some of your experiences in playing on a first date in a vanilla atmosphere? Thanks!