ChasCouple

Twoplayful2, I was hoping someone would bring this up in a post. Hubby and I have encountered many such couples, and have read many more profiles claiming the female is bisexual, but interestingly enough, they are only in search of female partners. The male half of the other couple is not expected to join in, unless he considers watching a fulfilling activity (he doesn't). We find it puzzling; we thought bisexual meant bisexual. Some days we wryly say that in the swing community it's code for lesbian :/

Thanks to everyone who responsed. Every one of you are right! I can't very well be angry after the fact, it isn't fair. He did let us know up front. I guess what bothers me now is what Julie said in her post--that somehow he must have thought I was less of a person for being part of a swinging couple. But again, thanks to all who took time to weigh in. The truth stings sometimes

Hi all, In December we met a single guy that we'd chatted with online, and both liked, so we arranged for a 3some that went off quite well for all involved. While we were still chatting/calling, and before we met in person, I asked him what he'd do if the met someone and it became serious. He was passively looking at the time, and he replied that he didn't know if he'd continue in the lifestyle, and that should he meet "THE ONE" he wouldn't want to share with her his extracurricular past, nor would he want her to engage in the lifestyle with him even if she was willing. He recently informed us that he found someone and hopes we can remain friends, etc, but I get the impression it's a brush off and there's to be no further contact. My question is, am I wrong to be offended by his behavior? Looking back, he basically stated that he he wouldn't want any woman of his to do what we're doing, so did I miss a red flag? I can't help but feel a little used, in that we were a convenient sexual outlet until he found what he really wanted. Any thoughts?

Shady, Please remember that persistence can and does pay off...my husband brought up the topic shortly after we married 10 years ago, and it took 8 years before I came around to the idea. He'd bring it up periodically and one day I surprised him by giving it the go ahead. We'd been each other's first and only, and I honestly thought he was testing my loyalty or something when he first broached the subject. So, keep at it (respectfully, of course) and maybe she'll come around. Good luck.