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  • Birthday 04/11/1973

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    married couple
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    Windsor, Ontario
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    making new friends in the lifestyle
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    management

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    sexypairca

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  1. As a couple who has apparently quit, I would venture to say the the lifestyle quit us...it wasn't a conscious decision. Over the years that we were actively involved, our favourite clubs closed and our couple friends split up (all of them). Aside from getting a "black widow" complex, it became discouraging to meet new people. The thought of meet new couples became tiresome and the overall appeal was reduced to a chore. Thats not to say that presented with the opportunity it would not be seized, just not sought after. I do not believe that if the lifestyle was a positive experience, you ever leave it. The evolution and thought processes that were experienced along the way become a part of who you are and in turn I believe change your outlook on many things. Annette
  2. We may not visit this board often but catch up on reading when possible. This thread is comforting because just last week a new coworker stuck her foot in her mouth without even knowing. Now in her defense she seems very nice but we've only been working together for about a month and I'm not one to share my "hobbies" with new people unless they directly ask. Most people are in the know and it doesn't bother me but I don't exactly advertise at work. That said, she was talking about her evening cruising cyber space and talking to someone online which lead to playing around on cam. Later in their interactions she found out he was a swinger and was very put off. That morning at work her rants consisted of how gross swingers are and she couldn't believe that any decent person would do such a thing. For those of you who have met me you may be able to appreciate the self restraint that it took to just shut up. My big come back was basically to each their own and you never know what people are up to in their personal lives, with a little smirk on my face of course. As rumor mills go, I'm sure she'll taste that foot one day. I just had to laugh.
  3. As with most anything in life, swingers aren't perfect. We come in all shapes, colors and sizes. I do believe that you will be relieved as you begin your journey that this is true. I had feelings of what you refer to as "mild body image issues" in the begining also. The more I looked around the more comfortable I felt, at the time we had just finished our family and the state that my body had been left in was not part of the life that I had ordered. In my experience, how sexy you feel that is what counts. Either work on becoming more comfortable in your own skin or make changes that will result in what you consider to be a more desirable you. Either way I'm sure that there are plenty of people that would be interested, be yourself and the rest will fall into place. IMHO Annette
  4. Results for her: You're 77% Poly 84% tolerant of the poly lifestyle 16% just in it for the sex
  5. My strangest reason would also be a lesson learned. I had met with a single guy after meeting on an online site and corresponding through chat/email. He seemed nice enough and we eventually met for coffee to see if we had a physical interest. During the course of our conversation he mentioned the lack of security on most ad sites, how easy it was to hack and download pics. I got the impression that he was looking to tell me something so I let him continue despite the fact that I know very little about computers. He continued on with "I hope you won't be mad...", he had downloaded my pics from our profile onto his hard drive. I was quite furious even after he attempted to reasure me that he had no intention of doing anything with them, was just testing that site's security. Needless to say that was as good of a reason as any and I modified all our uploaded pics in the event of future theft. Annette
  6. This result is for the female half Your Type is ESTJ Extroverted 100 Sensing 1 Thinking100 Judging44 Qualitative analysis of your type formula You are: very expressed extrovert slightly expressed sensing personality very expressed thinking personality moderately expressed judging personality
  7. I chose indifferent to certifications despite the fact that we have a couple attached to our profile and have written them for others. At no point in time do our certifications even imply anything other than we think these are nice people. We also don't have any certifications implying that other's have met us in that special way either. Yes I will read another's certifications but wouldn't judge them on what other's had to say. I'm a do it for yourself kinda gal.
  8. I voted the tolerable/neutral option despite the fact that I've got two. For me it depends upon the piercing placement and if it suits the person aesthetically. I can easily tolerate an ear or facial piercing (except the eye brow ones, they freak me out) and for the most part am neutral with all others. The only one that intrigues me is the frenum, I would just like to flick my tongue around one .
  9. I would agree that "bi curious" fits the bill for what you have described, especially since you have not yet had the opportunity to explore with women. The catagorizing of sexuality is difficult in my book, but if you are looking for FF interaction you are less likely to find it if you tell people that you are straight. I describe myself as "straight" despite the fact that I've been involved in a few FF situations that were enjoyable. I'm not "curious", been there done that so I won't imply that I am still trying to figure it out. I'm not equally attracted to each sex so I don't claim to be bi (thats what I consider to be bi, your interpretation may vary). I take the "if it feels good and everyone is up for it, who cares what you call it" approach. Straight just takes the expectation of FF play away, without the pressure it is easier to go with what works at the time. Annette
  10. I had asked that question but never expanded on my answer. I answered a select few over the duration. While we really don't have any expectations, we enjoy the company of others in the lifestyle but don't necessarily swing with each of them. At one point in time the "find one couple that we were compatatble for long term" sounded ideal but we are always meeting new people so we keep an open mind with respect to new play couples. We take the friends with potential benefits route. Annette
  11. I voted for sure, no problem. Most of our swing couples tend to be older, up to 15+ years. Some of our friends are younger and we are trying to meet a variety of people, not based on age. I had real issues with guys under 30 (just a flat out immature impression) but gradually this is changing, depending on the guy of course. Annette
  12. No your not alone, I've got to Ditto you for the most part. With headaches and cramps that could kill a horse. That time is less than amorous around here for a couple of days. I've heard that an orgasm is good to ease the cramps but ibuprophen pulls rank. As that time becomes lighter I'm more open for suggestions but there is a day or two of shut down. Annette
  13. These stories wouldn't happen to be published in magazines or online ads now would they? Average everyday people don't sound so exciting, so that would account for the tales of swinging adonis' and beauty queens. It sells. Thats not to say that these adventures don't happen just not the norm from what I've seen. Annette
  14. If it is an evening out, we're going on a date. Not my problem if family assumes that its with each other. If its a mini trip that involves going out of town we tell everyone that we're going on a weekend get away, just need some time away from the kids. Sitters know how far we are in the event of an emergeny and have our cell # so we no longer have to give our exact destination. We've had some stange looks over the past couple of years when we'd say "Oh yeah, we're going away this weekend" and then asked where only to tell of a place that really isn't an attraction. Not to mention a few remarks wondering why we have so many new friends and "where are you meeting these new friends?".? Oh well, what they don't know won't hurt 'em.
  15. We really only use SLS but we still have a profile on AFF that I've just never gotten around to deleting (free member). Ontario Couples and SexyAds would bring it up to four. We've tried different sites over time and still think that SLS is the way to go. It is possible that we've got old profiles out there somewhere and I just cant recall, but if that is the case the site isn't really working for us if I can easily forget. I visit SLS a couple times a week, AFF a couple times a month and the others when there is mail waiting. Annette
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