Anon321

I have a lot of mixed opinions on the porn industry nowadays. I do think that it's a good thing that there is more homemade porn that people can put out because they enjoy it. And they also have the ability to make themselves stars and money through channels like OnlyFans and live webcams. I feel like this has also made porn and sex more accepted and less shameful. Having said all of that, I feel it has also killed the mainstream business of porn. I can't imagine how these companies can make the same money off of big porn stars when there is just so much free and competitive content out there now. I think another downside is that the content has gotten so extreme that it has desensitized some people, especially younger people. We see this all the time. We've played with guys of all different ages and the younger ones are rougher and kinkier and I think a lot of it is due to the porn today. And I am not talking about the rape scenes on something like Kink that OP referred to. If the parties all consent and there are the proper precautions in place including safe words/ actions, other men and women on set to make sure everything is proper and not boundaries are crossed, etc., then I'm actually perfectly fine with it. It's more of the amateur porn today where women are unknowingly getting themselves into abusive scenes without proper precautions. Facial Abuse falls into this category. All the younger guys are very familiar with their work and many have cited specific scenes of stuff they saw and want to do. Overall, things like facefucking, anal, pissing, and overall rough sex acts whether spanking, slapping, spitting, hair pulling, etc. just seem to be more commonplace in both porn and real life. I also think there is much more emphasis on humiliation in porn which has also carried over into real life. Most of the time it is humiliating the woman, however there has also been an uptick in male humiliation from cuckold scenarios. I am not judging these acts themselves. Hell, my GF LOVES being dominated and humiliated in bed. I mean, she complains when a guy isn't rough with her. But I always thought of her as in the minority, whereas in porn it almost seems to be the majority now. Just because my GF likes it doesn't mean the majority of women want a guy to ram their cocks down their throats until they puke. But its become a more and more common theme in porn and I think that is translating to real life sex too.

I think it's the opposite with us. The guys say some pretty damn dirty things but I usually tame it down a bit for my GF when she asks. I don't know why as she loves that filthy kind of talk. I was in a group chat with 3 of my buddies and we were talking about my GF, sharing pictures, etc., and the conversation and pics were pretty raunchy stuff. My GF saw it and reading it turned her on. So she asked to be part of the group chat so she can read it on her phone and talk to the guys. So we started a separate group chat with her on it and the guys got really tame and no one shared any pics or anything about her but they continued on with the dirty talk and picture sharing in the chat just between us guys. It's kind of funny how free they are when they're fucking her or when they're talking between us guys, but when they know she is reading the text chat and can respond they freeze up. Even when they text her one on one in private they get really nasty with the talk and will send her pictures. It's very strange.

My GF definitely thinks about this. She asks me often about if us guys mention her when we go out or if we're texting about her in group chat what we're saying about her and if she can see the texts,

Swinging activities were at homes, swingers clubs, and hotels. Hotwifing play has been everywhere. I couldn't even begin to count.

It was just a three of us. And I think she was more disappointed with the fact that he couldn't get hard. She would have rather have had him enjoy cumming twice with her, regardless of how quick the first one was, than have to struggle to get hard just to cum once. I kind of understand where she is coming from. Like just say that you're going to cum fast the first time and do it. I also kind of understand where he is coming from in that he doesn't want to cum really quick and feel embarrassed.

I 1000% agree, Sometimes it's fun to be there and watch and participate. Sometimes it's fun to not be there but see pictures/videos, or hear about the experience from my GF and/or the guy she was with about the experience. And sometimes it's fun to just let her go and play and not know exactly what happened but to let your mind wander about it. We incorporate all of these regularly into our play.

It's also for pleasure, fun, exercise, etc. 😀

That's a key question. My GF was blowing a guy and he wasn't getting hard and she asked why. He told her that he had just jerked off in the car before he came in so that he would last longer. She was like "what the fuck? Why didn't you let me have that first load and then we go for round 2?" Even afterwards when we were talking she was saying how it makes no sense to her why a guy would jerk off right before having sex when he can just cum from sex and then go again. Although I agree with her thinking, as a guy, I can also understand why he jerked off right before.

This is the kind of stuff that always makes my stomach churn as it sounds relatable to my GF's activities and the dark things that can happen in the lifestyle. So sorry to hear about your horrible experience.

We originally started as FWB, so we had a few that first year or 2. Then by the time we put an official title on the relationship we were already deep into the lifestyle by that point. So, if we're going by the first year we were officially a couple, and we're including hotwifing activities, then it's definitely over 20. We were extremely active at that time.

I suppose that makes sense. We've always just considered sloppy seconds as having her after she has been freshly fucked. And I don't think we're the only ones who think of it that way. Other guys have thrown around that term "sloppy seconds" even though they didn't cum inside of her.

I know I know. Neither of us were really tied to the idea of marriage. We both agreed that if we decided to have kids then we would definitely get married.

We do bets like that all the time. Pool, sports, card games, anything... sometimes she's making the bet or I'm betting her. It's a lot of fun.

I kind of feel the same way. We've come across a lot of interesting guys in our time and some really bizarre requests. While my GF is down for a lot of crazy and bizarre play, there have been a couple of things that were just so far out there that she wouldn't entertain doing them. However, she never ever judged anyone for any of their kinks or fetishes or anything. She might decline to do it but would never insult them, laugh at them, or make fun of them for it. And I think just having that kind of an attitude and open mind is a turn on.

I agree with all of this. Our main activity is hotwifing (well I guess hot GFing since we aren't married lol), and I think of it very differently than cuckolding, even though on occasion there can sometimes be elements of it. I wish there was a hotwifing section on here.