With so many middle aged fringed women it is absolutely necessary to not only make a big deal about her preference but also a way to keep the fire hot. Once people make it about the guy guess who leaves the party? Oh yeah, the women.
It is a double edged sword.
If we knew it can be fun but what would really happen is every horny cornball would be hitting on every woman that showed the "signs".
We are kind if incidental swingers. Mostly enjoy different types of threes. It would be nice to see some kind of tell.
Like back in the days when male gays and bis wore an earring in the right ear...lol