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I just don’t understand the no kissing rule. I mean are you going to tell me it’s ok to go down on your lady or fuck her, but kissing is crossing the line? It’s just weird to us, and we would definitely pass on a couple with that rule.

The first time she was with someone bigger than me she was really enjoying, but it didn’t bother me until his wife said to me that he was going to ruin her for me. I thought that was a rude thing to say. I’m not in this lifestyle to compete with anyone and I can satisfy my wife thank you very much! Lol Anyway she doesn’t get upset when I enjoy someone with bigger tits than hers, so why should I get upset if she likes someone with a bigger cock than mine? That’s kind of the fun of it being with someone that isn’t the same as your partner.

We have found that we are comfortable playing either way. One night the situation arose where we ended up in separate rooms and it was very sexy and intimate for us. We could still hear each other and could tell we were both having fun, so it was a good experience. Once we found we were comfortable with that, we started meeting others alone and found we were cool with that too. What you are looking for in the lifestyle is ever changing I believe as a couple starts getting more and more comfortable.

We live in Denver, but unfortunately we have not been to the Ranch yet, but plan to at some point when we can make it work. I do know if you plan on going on a weekend, be prepared for big crowds, and it is rather pricey especially if it is your first time there as there is an added $30 charge for the membership fee. If you go during the week, Wednesday I believe is the newbie night where you pay the membership fee, but if you buy dinner in the restaurant the entry fee is waived. There is also Mon Chalet that is a hotel that has sexy themed rooms of varying levels and a clothing optional pool area. Book early if you want a room but you can just pay for a pool only pass as well. Single guys aren't allowed except during the day or they pay for a room.

I am assuming that when you set this rule the other couple was involved? It is a bit confusing because you said he had messaged her a couple times before. Did she inform him that he shouldn't be doing that? If not I couldn't really blame him for doing it again as he probably thinks it is OK, especially if your wife is reciprocating. If he knows that you are totally against then I can see there being a problem, but it sounds like you two have a good connection with this couple, so it is up to you two if you believe this is enough to end the relationship. We personally do not have this rule. We both enjoy our one on one interaction with the couple we see regularly. Most times we will share our conversations and pics we send and receive. That in turn usually leads to us naked all over each other, so their is definitely a benefit! LOL Your wife may like this interaction with him and could be she is just getting more comfortable with him. Comfort leads to better sex in most cases. She is probably hesitant to tell you because she might think you will overreact. What are your reason's for not allowing one on one conversations?