I met my boyfriend of 3 years and fell madly in love with him - both in our 40's, both 2nd marriages. Not long after getting together he introduced me to the idea of swinging (he had done so in the past with his ex wife). I was immediately against the idea of him being with another woman, but we started talking about other possibilities. Eventually, I started engaging in more of the Hotwife stuff and we had a couple of threesomes with men - as this was his main kink (seeing me with other men). I was never fully into the Hotwife thing, even though it's a major kink of his, and I wanted something that would connect us more as a couple if we were going to continue in the "Lifestyle". We again talked about the idea of swinging. I decided it was something I should at least try with him.
We have met a really nice couple (two in fact) and gone on "initial dates" with them - dinner and drinks. It's time to "take the leap", so to speak, but I'm having such a hard time with the idea of my boyfriend and another woman. How do swingers manage the jealousy - the imagery of your partner getting pleasure from someone else, seeing them turned on by someone else or the idea that possibly they find someone else more attractive, better sexually, more interesting, etc. than you? No matter how hard I try, I feel like if I go through with this, then I am losing a part of him in a way. It's opposite for him...he LOVES to hear/see me getting pleasure from another man, and says that the jealousy is actually a huge turn on for him. Any advice or support would be highly appreciated...
(First time posting here, so forgive me if I did anything wrong)
