Sorry if I did not explain myself very well. My wife has full knowledge that I have a girlfriend and is very supportive. Mono in a poly relationship means just that, that she is fine with me being Polyamorous but does not want to partake herself. It's different that a "hot husband" scenario as its more than a hit and quit situation. She does like women ( and the term for a women joining a couple where the wife likes to watch is called a cake).