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I didn’t want to demand she come to bed. I guess I just hoped she would take it upon herself to cut it off there knowing it wasn’t going to happen with me in the room. If not him starting her, you think both of us should start or should I start with her and have him join in? We’re new so I guess I’m trying to work out the kinks. I agree I am lucky. She’s an amazing women. Thank you for your insight.

I don’t know the answer to that. I’d like to say she wants to threesome again but we didn’t really threesome the first time so I’m not sure. She says she did it to help relax him so maybe it would be easier next time. So I guess moving forward with the agenda. But they waited until I was asleep to do it. I tried to reassure him. I smiled, nodded, thumbs up type of stuff. I knew he was inexperienced to so I knew it would be awkward, I just didn’t know I’d be cut out. And I would’ve jumped in on the play but they stopped every time I turned around. I even messaged him the next day and reassured him and told him he didn’t have to stop when I looked. He just told me that he appreciates the “ignoring” right now until he gets used to everything. My fear is if we keep doing it like this until he gets used to it, all he’s gonna get used to is sex with my wife... not a threesome. I agree. There was clumsyness and I contribute that to it being a first for all of us. I’m trying to get past it because your right, she did what I wanted her to do. I’m just a little scared I guess. She my world and the mother to my children so I don’t want to feel like I can’t trust her. Thanks for your help. The community support is awesome.

I should also note that she definitely wants to do it again. I also (kinda) want to keep going in hopes that it’s get comfortable and we can have this great threesome sex everybody seems to have.

Hello all. Thanks for being here and hopefully shedding some advice on my issue. So here it goes. My wife and I have been together for 15 years, since 16. She has never ever been unfaithful and never given me a reason not to trust her. We have a very stable and strong base. She has always tried my fantasies or likes and they have become hers. Well I pitched the idea of an threesome with another guy. She was against it at first and then after doing some research she decided she wanted to try. Now we talked about it a bunch and came up with the rules (really just make sure there’s condoms and no solo play). We decided to ask someone in our circle because he’s not a sleezy guy and pretty respectful. So the other night we invited him over all of us kinda knowing that’s where the night would end up. We were hanging in the garage (I have it set up with a couple couches and some chairs and a tv with gaming consoles). He was uncomfortable as this was his first time also. I turned a chair around and started gaming, kinda “ignoring” them to help ease some of the awkwardness. They were fore playing back there for quite a while. Every time I would turn around he would stop playing her, which I understood and alright with. Well it got late and I had to work the next day so I had to go to bed. I left them in the garage together. Well as one could expect I couldn’t sleep so about a half hour went by and I went back out. When I walked out she was giving him oral while he was playing with her. They didn’t stop and I didn’t say anything. This pretty quickly led into him having penetration with her while she performed oral on me. Now. Let me tell you that it was the hottest thing to walk in on her doing that and then of course the sex was great. The first thing I have an issue with is that I felt like an outsider and third party. I understand and put myself in the situation to make it more comfortable for him. The hope is that eventually it’s comfortable enough for all of us to play together so I can work through that. The second issue and the big issue I have is that they waited for me to go to bed to start having sex (oral). My wife said that she decided to do it in hopes that it will help break the ice and make it easier for next time. She also said she wouldn’t have had sex with him if I didn’t come out (I don’t know if that makes it any better). She says she understands she shouldn’t have without me there and won’t do it again, but at the same time she acts like it’s not a big deal and told me she just wants us to have fun, uninhibited sex and doesn’t want it to be micro managed. My issue here is I have no problem with any of the sex. It was super hot to know she was getting pleasure the whole night. My issue is that they waited til I went to bed. The first time in my relationship I feel like I can’t trust her. She says she won’t do that again but I don’t know if I believe that. Now I feel like anytime he comes over if I end up passing out there gonna do it. I don’t know how to get past the trust issue. Any help please!