Choices

This was a great reply. My husband and I have been discussing for 5 years and I don't think its going to happen. I've come to here to learn more about it and understand why after being married for over 12 yrs he is wanting this lifestyle.

Hello, I'm glad I found this website. My husband and I have been married 20 years and about 5 years ago he came to me asking for sexual exploration. I am now at a crossroads because since then we've gone to sex therapy and realized that we are definitely not comparable in this area. We both agree that our sex life is great. He is amazing and wants this to be a shared experience. He says he has no desire to do any exploration by himself so swinging is on top of his list. The problem is that I have no desire to sleep with another man, the thought alone makes me feel sick to the stomach. We went to a swingers club one time and I had to get drunk just to have sex in a room where another couple can watch. We have several friends who are couples that do swing and my husband knows this and has even suggested that we play with them. I love my husband with all my heart and would hate to see my marriage end because of this situation. I don't have any problems with a swingers lifestyle - it's just not the thing for me. I think in the long run my husband is going to ask me to make a choice. The whole thing is just really sad. - Any thoughts?