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In my mid-20s, my gf/now wife moved in together after I got a new job. I made some friends at work and we all started hanging out with our SOs. One guy of the new group had an affinity for saying things for pure shock value. He used the “c” word around my wife once and noticed it made her uncomfortable. He would then continue saying it around her just to get a reaction. It got to a point where my wife dreaded hanging out with this guy and his SO because she knew he would push her buttons when it came to that word. I, along with his best friend, had to sit him down and ask him to stop as it would really kill the vibe of the group. Thankfully, it worked, and all was well with the world. Personally, I do tend to avoid or socialize less with folks where every sentence has the f word, and the f word is the only adjective they know. I think that is just a product of where I grew up where swearing was highly frowned upon. Since college and entering the real world I have been to cities and locales where this type of swearing is the norm and part of their local dialect and perfectly acceptable. As the poster noted above, I too can appreciate those who are creative with the diverse set of curse words the English language has to offer. P.S. Penn State break my heart yesterday. Oh well, hopefully next year will be better.

I couldn’t agree more. My wife and I are total newbies. We are still working on having our first experience. However, we would never even THINK to pull what you are trying to pull. It’s dishonest, unfair to the unsuspecting partner, borderline illegal due to the filming and simply cruel. The main reason my wife and I are considering the lifestyle is because it forces us to communicate, be honest with each other, and honest with whoever we would decide to eventually swap with. What you are doing is WRONG. Your wife is absolutely right to tell the truth. I think you need to come to terms with your feelings of being the alpha, and truly look at yourself and whether you are truly ready to go down the path and be in the LS. Your path should be built on honor, respect, and above all, honesty. You are embarking on a path of deceit. Please reconsider your path moving forward.

HotEllie, Best of luck. My wife and I are total newbies as well. We attended a club party a few weeks ago for the first time. We were very nervous, and had the same concerns you shared in your post. We had a great time. We went in knowing that for our first dip into the lifestyle we weren’t going to swap with any couples, and just try and have fun. Meet people, dance, and take a dip in their huge hot tub. If there is one thing we learned from our first experience is be sure to communicate with your partner, and be clear what your rules are for yourselves and when chatting with other couples. We are going back to the club this Friday for their costume party. Not sure what we are going to wear yet. If you are going to TJs we might just see you there.