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Seanandem

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Seanandem last won the day on December 19 2018

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  • Birthday 08/28/1974

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    Council Bluffs, IA
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  1. I respectfully disagree. The background you don’t have, and frankly I wished you’d have asked is: This has been a discussion for us for 5 years or so. I have always prioritized my marriage. There have been times I wanted to swing, and she didn’t. Immediately, I would drop the subject, only to have her bring it up on her own. This isn’t me pushing. This is our joint desire. We feel like we’ve tried nearly everything to break the cycle of on again, off again. Have we cycled up and down? Sure. Have we learned from it? Absolutely. Are we perfect? No. But who is? Is my situation ideal? No. Hell no. I would change it if I can. I’m trying to change it. But whether we swing or not has never, and will never affect my effort in my marriage. I love my wife more than I’ve ever loved anyone. I would do, and will do anything, to make this marriage work, because it has been the greatest relationship of my life. Perhaps your comment wasn’t meant as an attack. But it certainly came off as presumptuous at best, ignorant and aggressive at worst. I choose to believe the former. That you didn’t mean to be so negative. I was simply seeking some sage advice as to whether OUR idea (joint idea see?) COULD work. Thanks to all who offered constructive support. It never mattered whether the advice was “pro” swing, or “anti” swing. I was simply seeking to partake in experienced people’s wisdom, whatever the advice, BECAUSE I don’t want to damage the relationship or marriage in any way. Thank you all.
  2. We’re going to take a couple more months to discuss things, and make sure we don’t have any fight whatsoever before we start. I should say, her children dislike me, and are teenagers. This is a HUGE component of plus not living in the same house.
  3. Seems to be some bi hatred here. Choose better words bro. Seriously.
  4. To expand a bit further. Trust isn’t an issue. Neither is love. We’re just stepping back from living together to lighten the emotional load, and allow ourselves time to heal from the fights we used to have. (She was my total emotional support due to a previous abisive relationship on my end, and that got way too heavy) Ive healed, and let go of all that.
  5. I understand y’all’s concerns and advice. Would it matter if we were divorced? Like if we were just bf/gf? Therapist is scheduled.
  6. We were at a swingers club. We were married. We both enjoyed in the moment. I found out later she felt extremely guilty, even though I was the one who asked her to suck another man’s dick. I think she’s past her guilt. She wants to have fun. She wants to see me in a fun, happy, sexy light…..not as emotional work. I kind of feel like that’s why we could be an exception to the rule. But I give way to a you swinger scholars who know better!
  7. So, we’ve been married 8 years. On again, off again. Separated a few times. Currently living apart as FWB who don’t stray outside each other physically. This is an effort to reduce the emotional distress our marriage has placed on both of us. Rewind- We both feel like when it’s been good between us. It’s better than anything we’ve ever experienced. But we seem to find ways to argue when it’s bad. And it’s pretty bad when it’s in a down cycle. We’ve recently come to an agreement where we will be monogamous with each other (neither one has strayed despite the ups and downs)….EXCEPT WE WANT TO START PLAYING with others together. We’ve discussed swinging for literally years. I’ve seen her give a BJ. It was hot. Now she’s coming into her own, lost weight and her confidence has soared. I’m so fucking proud of her. Anyway, we never went the full Monty in the past because we felt we weren’t solid enough. We were LITERALLY about to sign divorce paperwork when we came up with an idea. What if we swung together as BF/GF? This may help to alleviate some of the resentment we both hold toward the other for past transgressions and allow us to see each other in a fun, easy, happy go lucky light. In that light, is it possible we can let go of the resentment and hurt we caused each other? I know they say not to try this unless your relationship is solid. We’re not. But trying to get back there. We both feel the resentment would fade if we’re living apart, and fucking each other like high schoolers. And oh yeah, fucking others too. and just have the opportunity to see each other in a fun, light hearted way. Thoughts?
  8. We have long suspected this. My wife and I are of the opinion that there are no 100% straight or gay people. We believe everyone is on a spectrum of sexuality. I'm not sure why everyone feels the need to label. Who cares. Life is too short! Play with whomever turns you on and dont care what the world thinks!
  9. Thanks all! I figured we'd be right in the "sweet spot". Seems like we're close!
  10. Thanks to all who replied! More takes on this question are welcome! One more quick question to pose... Can anyone estimate the average age of swingers in clubs? The Mrs. is mid thirties. (I'm smart enough to not talk about her age in too much detail...lol) She's concerned we're getting too old for this. I'm in my mid 40s. I told her we'd likely be right in the middle as far as age. On a side note, a new lifestyle club has opened in Omaha. Forbidden Omaha opened in February. Ive heard its AMAZING! Hope I'm not breaking any rules by saying the name on here. Thanks again! Sean
  11. So my wife and I have discussed swinging for several years. We've decided we're going to play soon, maybe by visiting a new lifestyle club in our town. We've discussed our preferences, boundaries, concerns, etc.... The Mrs. Biggest concern is: We both feel like we're really going to enjoy this. I'd like to see her with another woman, and she's always been curious about women. She has no doubt she'll enjoy that experience. I'd also like to see her with another man. She has said me and another guy with her would be hot, and we roleplay this often.. We're both bi-curious. So her concern is that once we start down this path, our regular love-making, and occasional fucking may seem diminished because adding a third or possibly another couple is going to be erotic overload, so to speak. How do y'all experienced swingers find this has affected your normal, day-to-day sex lives? Does regular love making seem less intense since y'all started swinging? Thanks in advance. Sean
  12. Hope it's not verboten to post a website on here. Try yandy.com Hope this helps Sean
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