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So we talked about everything. And it went very well. Talked about the potential for disaster if we do this with a friend and she agreed probably not the best idea. I said how since we are both at different levels of what we would allow happen. That we should start off with another couple. And she was like forget the threesome lets just do that. So all in all it went well. Thank all of you for the advice it really helped.

I hear ya. There isnt any issue with communicating the conflict. I just wanted to get a little advice before we talked about it again. And in doing so ive kinda worked out my own issues with the situation. If im comfortable with mfm then lets do it and worry about the rest later.

So didnt get a chance to talk last night. But I think ive just been over thinking this whole thing. Im still gonna tell her how i Im feeling. But still going to go through with the mfm. Because i want this too. Most likely not with a friend tho, what you all have been saying makes sense. The risk of losing a friend isnt worth the reward. Also i am prepared to be a voyeur at times during. Thats not a problem for me. And as chiccouplexx said i think mfm will be a good first step into the LS. And as the ffm threesome isnt really my end goal in all of this. It would be fun yes, but I guess what i really want is swaps with other couples. That is where i think we would both have the most enjoyment. Do you think thats a better plan? Start with mfm because we are both comfortable in that situation, hold off on the ffm because shes not comfortable with that situation. And start off with with soft swap and work our way up to full swap as her comfort level seeing me with other women increases?

Think all we need to do is talk more about the whole situation. And i do want to just go through with the mfm and worry about the ffm later. But now that i know how she feels. I dont want her to feel like she has to agree to me having sex with another woman in ffm just because i let her in mfm. Because i feel like after the fact shell agree to it but not actually want it. And I would never pressure her into it or make her feel like she owes me. So maybe we can try a soft swap for now and hold off of the threesomes until she is more comfortable seeing me with another woman. Maybe ease into it. Because i know this is something we both want. Our sex life is great but we have only had sex with eachother and i feel like were both ready to have some new experiences. I think we just need to slow down a bit and do it the right way so no one gets hurt. Well Im gonna talk to her about it tonight. Ill post about it tomorrow. Thanks everyone. Great advice

I guess all i can really do is talk to her about it. And i feel like the reason she wouldnt want me to have sex with the other woman in a ffm is because she is uncomfortable with her body and might think i will be more attracted to the other woman and get jealous. But i have to put my insecurities away when doing mfm. like is he gonna be bigger than me, is the sex going to be better with him than with me. Am i gonna be left out. But I am able to put all that shit aside because i know we are doing this for our pleasure. And I am completely confident and trusting in my relationship. And its like do I just go ahead and change the rules and say she cant have sex with the third after we already talked about it and said she could. I wouldnt want to do that anyways i feel like it would take half the fun out of it. Should i just call the whole thing off? Because i know that after the mfm where she has sex with the third. Im gonna want the ffm where i have sex with the third and i know she doesnt want that to happen. The ffm threesome she is ok with just not the sex. And i know its gonna eat away at me because i let her and she wont let me. So will it be better to hold off on all of this until she is more comfortable and ready to reciprocate. Because i don't wanna do this in hopes that she will maybe one day let me do the same. Thanks for the advice so far. And i am willing to take more input on the matter.

So a little backstory. Me and my wife have been together for 15 years. Since high school. We have a very strong relationship. And a very good sex life. We have talked on and off for years about having a threesome but have never made it happen. Recently i have gotten her to try dvp with toys, fingers, etc.* Which is something that I've always wanted to do. And it turns out she likes it. Which is great because i like to do it to her. It happens quite frequently now and we both have amazing orgasms during. So the other day she told me that she would like to have a threesome with one of our male friends. Which i agreed to. I think it would be great and it turns me on. Im kind of exited about the whole thing. Taking turns on my wife and hopefully trying the dvp out for real, if hes comfortable with dicks touching that is. Im cool with the whole thing. Even the fact that its one of my friends idk how i would feel doing this with a stranger. So we were talking about it the other day and I brought up that maybe after the mfm threesome we do a ffm threesome. She said she would want to do that. Followed by "but you wouldnt have sex with the other girl". I was speechless. I didnt know what to say because we had just got done setting ground rules for the mfm. Which involved a lot of sex between her and the third. Now i dont know what to do. It feels massively one sided and unfair. And dont get me wrong I didnt agree to the mfm just to get the ffm. I am genuinely into it. Also bit of info niether of us have had sex with another person only eachother. And i get it that she wants to have sex with someone else, but so do i. But now im thinking why would i agree to this if shes the only one that gets to have sex with someone else. I thought this was gonna be the start of a great thing going back and forth between mfm and ffm threesomes and more. And i dont want to do the mfm and then pressure her into a ffm where i have sex with the other girl. Because that will just mess things up. I also dont want to tell her she cant have sex with the thrid. I want her to have that. I don't wanna do this and have feelings of regret or resentment towards her. Or even jealousy not of her and the third having sex, jealous that she gets to have sex with someone else and I don't. But on the other hand i still want to do it. I guess im just really conflicted about this and she keeps talking about it and im trying to stay excited. But should i just call it off or go through with it because its something we both want? Am i being ridiculous about this? How should I proceed? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you*