Recently my wife and I have been talking about all manner of sexual exploration: threesomes, lifestyle parties, having sex (with each other) next to another couple, etc. Our communication is open and honest and, ultimately, she is fully supportive of the idea of me sleeping with another woman, but feels like she couldn’t have casual sex herself and she is not interested in a swap or bringing in another person (m or f) into our bedroom. We’ve set the ground rules for it and I’m excited but part of me thinks rather than go out of town with a single buddy and pretend to be single and hook up, it might be easier/more fun/get more understanding from someone in the lifestyle.
I’m new to this. Aren’t individual guys a pretty hard sell? Or am I underestimating the amount of guys cool with their wives swinging if they don’t get the other wife in the deal? Guidance for a noob welcome.