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  1. No, not married. But thats a long story for another thread. We have been very compatible since we were in our late teens, however, in the last few years my drive has sky rocketed and his hasnt. We've recently been to clubs, I took him to some places I frequented with my last partner. I've been in the lifestyle since about 2000. But He's very new to this. Like super new....like performance anxiety new lol I'm hoping that once he gets more acclimated we can go ALL in. I'm not gonna leave him at coat check and go totally wild lol
  2. Thanks Padoc....we unsuccessfully tried this with a vibrator before....we discussed using a simple dildo. I think less vibration from a lifelike dildo could work. Okay....so we weren't super far off lol
  3. Shhhhh don't say anything, I love to hear the "gushy " sounds of live making lol
  4. Ok. The long and short of is...My vagina has a mind of "her" own....and my libido isn't helping! The facts: 1. I'm super horny. 2. My long term lover (25 years) has "filed several grievances" with me as it relates to our sex life. 2a. I'm a selfish lover 2b. I'm never satisfied 2c. I want too much sex 2d. I'm not considerate to his needs. Conclusion....he has "cut me off" sexually. 3. Every session for me ends up being a marathon. 4. We've had 3somes and they both tap out. My dilemma is that I have an un usually high sex drive for a woman my age. (We are in our early 40s) I am multi orgasmic and by the time hes finishing up....im just getting warmed up. He has even gone as far as to time us. And on average we can go for 2-3 hrs. Which for me....is the midway point. Which to his credit, I see how hard he works to keep up with me and truly appreciate it. Additionally, I have tried to remedy this by finishing myself off after he's done...and this a why he thinks I'm greedy and selfish. Also, lubrication is never an issue, I stay super wet and ultimately feel like I'm not done until "she" dries up, which can take a LONG time. Regarding his grievances, I try very hard to take care of him....and he says I do. However, because I am multi orgasmic when I cum, my pussy contracts and pushes him out. Then she closes up which makes re entry impossible. This usually lasts for about 5 minutes...then I can re mount lol. He insists that I do this on purpose, because he has never experienced this with other partners. Well....neither have I. And it would totally counter productive for me to close him out intentionally. (This is a "hazard" of kegels) I've never been a size queen, but he is on the smaller side, which is why I WON'T address the reasons why this is happening as it is likely to be more hurtful than helpful. Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas that may help us? Keeping in mind, he refuses to try a cock ring and I can outlast the Viagra... Help...
  5. The charges only indicate what he got "caught" for.....its sickening. Thank you guys for your support. Sometimes a vote of confidence is needed to feel 100% ok with a decision. Although....he didn't make it super hard. And you know what really sucks.. .I had PLANS for him *insert Dr. EVIL Laugh* Ughhhh back to the drawing board...lol
  6. "Curtsy" thank you my love "curtsy"
  7. Side note, I haven't gotten a response from the club yet, but it's still early. I am absolutely serious about cancelling my membership if action is not taken, now that they have this info. Although I don't intend to see him again, I will keep in contact until I have confirmed that he is unwelcomed at the club, either from him or the club directly. Not sure if he would tell me, but if he starts acting squirrelly about going to the club I think it's safe to assume he received notice.
  8. SunandMoon, there were SEVERAL red flags that I "bookmarked" and that led to my investigation. 1. At the club, he told me that is attracted to older women....and that his attraction isn't because he has 'mommy issue's.' Because he has a great relationship with his mother. Then yesterday he went on a tirade about how bad a relationship he has with his mother. 2. EVERY woman from his past is/was crazy. They've attacked him, accused him of cheating, etc...I automatically see red when a man unnecessarily refers to women as bitches. And my question to him was "you need to figure out what about you attracts crazy bitches.....or do you turn normal women into crazy bitches?", I could tell by his laugh that he didn't get the severity of my question. Smh 3. A few other things I attributed to the age difference, but his ex was so "crazy" he deleted his FB page. This made me go "hmmmm"... so I said "In all that we've discussed, I don't take you to be so passive as to delete your social media to ease a jealous partner. Are you telling me you have no social media because your ex got mad at you for "liking" a picture"? He said "oh no..there were other reasons....but he never said what they were. (At this point I. Started recalling all pertinent info he gave me to start my investigation....because that was fishy as hell!)
  9. SJBluebirds, thanks. He is 32, the charges occurred when he was 18/19, and the girl was 12. There wasn't much detail given about the occurrence. And I considered the possibility of your scenarios.....16-17 y.o girlfriend, parent problems i.e YOU got OUR baby pregnant etc....but the only way to Get more insight is to ask him. And I don't know him well enough to feel any confidence in his side of the story.
  10. Hello folks. I'm hoping someone can give me some insight or just use my experience as food for thought. Friday night I went to a local lifestyle club. Really just needed to get out, had no intentions on playing at all. Well....that went out the window FAST. Met a super sexy young man, literally....he's 11 years younger than I. We had an awesome time, exchanged numbers, chatted all weekend and even went to brunch this morning. He's asked about me coming to his home a couple of times this weekend....my short answer is always NO. I'll see you at the club or other public place, but I'm not coming to your home. I actually considered revisiting this in a couple months, maybe after several dates....id feel comfortable. Anywho....as always, whenever I plan on spending time with anyone m or f, I do a simple google check. I've gotten pretty good at acquiring less conspicuous info, for my search, without seeming like a complete weirdo. i.e current neighborhood, phone number, high school, college etc. Well today i did my usual search....and low and behold this guy is a registered sex offender who did time for sexually assaulting a young girl. First, I thank my lucky stars that our only interaction outside of the club was a busy diner. While I do believe in the power of rehabilitation, but for me that's out the window once you've been sexually inappropriate or violent with a woman or child. Has this happened to anyone else? How did you handle it? If it has never happened,how would you handle it? I notified the club as soon as I found out, I sent an email and attached his mugshot and the link to the state sex offender website with all details regarding him. I was really torn about "whistle blowing", as i can't stand judgements. But I did make a judgement....maybe he's rehabilitated....maybe it was false accusation.....i don't know. But I just feel like, I would appreciate another woman doing the same thing. I feel like if they don't respond or take any action towards revoking his membership, I'll never go back. Oh yeah, I'm new, I'm Afro-Dytee! Hey y'all!
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