Coffee2sugars

We know two couples in the lifestyle who were friends from before we started swinging and we decided very early on that we would never cross that line. Friendship is so much more important than a shag. We know they would but it just would not be worth the risk to our friendship by complicating things that way.

This is why we prefer clubs. We have found it so much easier to meet playmates and have fun clubs than by reading profiles and having long drawn conversations with people. We use various websites to maintain contact after meeting. Anyone who starts arguing in front of us is immediately put on the no go list. We swing for fun, not for drama.

I have CCTV on my house due to two very recent burglarys. They are great for evidence gathering and a good deterrent. We don't entertain guests that we play with at home but if we ever did we would simply disconnect the cables with the feed so they didn't have to worry about being filmed when visiting.

Honestly right now my heart goes out to you because I get sense that you feeling very alone right now. I agree with most of the advice above so won't repeat it here but I will say that if you need it take that break, don't ask insist on it. If your partners friend is pushing boundries remove her from your relationship and if your partner is breaking rules and causing you hurt or pain then confront him and ask yourself if this is how you want to live your life. I hope you can work through things and find the middle ground but do not put up with a lifestyle that makes you unhappy.

I tend to agree with this statement, We are raised with the ideals that there is one man for one woman and that anything else is totally wrong. It is re-enforced by friends and family throughout our whole life and socially frowned upon if you ever hear that someone you know is living or considering an alternative lifestyle. I would say in the moment you are in comfortable surroundings. You are happy, comfortable and relaxed allowing you to explore an alernative to society's norm in a supportive enivorment (well done hubby and play partners). After the event you are then thrust back into "normal" life where you perhaps feel that you forced to question and examine your decisions under the dissaproving gaze of a lifetimes worth of social conditioning. You may also further be affected by what is known in the Kink community and "SUB DROP". It is perfectly normal and usually occurs durring very sexually charged situations. It is caused by the body releasing endorphins raising your endorphin level to above the normal levels for you. Those endorphins make you feel great but when the event is over those endorphin levels suddenly drop and can go below what is normal for you leaving you to feel mildly depressed. I am not saying this is deffinatly whats happening but it sounds like a possibility and I would encourage a google search of the term "SUB DROP" just incase. Remember its called Sub drop but is not limited to those in the kink community, it can affect anyone. Just take your time and communicate with your husband about your feelings. I am sure over time you will adjust. Good luck Coffee x