Jump to content

BandC

Registered
  • Content Count

    8
  • Joined

Community Reputation

15 Good

About BandC

  • Rank
    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 11/25/1977

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Eugene, OR
  1. Well, since my last post I think we've definitely been through the first stage you mentioned. We had a couple nights where we missed quite a bit of sleep because we were busy exchanging fantasies and then having VERY hot sex. C has taken this fantasy and really made it her own. It's very sexy. She's also very gracious, saying she'd be willing to let me have another woman before she has another man. I always figured it would be the other way. Who knows what will actually happen? She keeps finding new ways to surpise me too. She's told me she wants to go out to a public place with lots of people and have me point out to her women that I find attractive. She gets really excited just talking about doing that. She really is amazing. I think she and I have definitely shown each other that we really are wanting to try swinging. Now we just have to figure out how to take the next step. I think the idea of having same room sex with another couple is a good idea. B
  2. Thanks for the encouragement and advice everyone. Funny you should mentions the kissing hfire, as this is the thing that has blown me away most. I was thinking along the same lines you are, about keeping that between C and I as something special, but C really surprised me in alot of ways over the weekend, and one of them was she really wanted to see me kissing other girls (along with doing everything else imaginable with them). Now, believe me, I am not complaining about this in the slightest, but the intensity of her desire for this has kind of stunned me. Her enthusiasm for the idea has grown several times over what I ever expected it to be, so much so that it's almost scary. I know she's going to be reading this and I hope she doesn't take that in the wrong way. It's just that her having such an intense desire to see me with other women was totally unexpected and it's really amazing because I know she is sincere. Do any of you other gals have feelings like that? Does the idea of watching your man with other girls drive you crazy? I expected that to be the thing she'd be most reluctant about. It's kind of funny. I'm the one who brought the subject up to begin with and now I feel kind of like the "conservative" one. I guess her intense enthusiam has forced me to look at my fears all that much more closely because the possibility of it actually happening has increased greatly. Having read how so many guys find watching their loved one getting pleasure from another man so arousing, I'm pretty sure I would to, but part of me still finds the idea very "scary". The fact that C seems to want to throw me at any woman I find attractive makes me feel almost like some sort of prude for having those scary feelings. Part of me wants to see her do it with another guy just so I will actually KNOW how I'll feel about it, instead of just wondering and worrying about it. I guess after her being so adamant about be being with other women I kind of feel selfish for having any reservations at all. I really do feel in my heart that I want to let her do it though. I think I'll stop here before this post gets even more rambly than it already is. Looking forward to your responses, B
  3. I haven't been looking at this board much because I've been letting my feelings sort themselves out and letting C roll the ideas over in her mind without me putting any kind of pressure on her. It was a pleasant suprise to come home from work on Friday night and see that the swingersboard was at the top of the website history on my browser and knowing that I wasn't the one who put it there! I proceed to talk to C about it and find out that she has been thinking about the idea alot since I brought it up with her and she decided to check out this site on her own. If anything she seems even more excited about it than I am and I'm pretty excited about it. We spent a large part of the weekend just talking to each other about what's exciting about the idea and what our fears are and it's just reinforced my belief that we are as close emotionally as two people can possibly be. I don't know when or if we will ever actually attempt to make these fantasies reality, but just knowing that we can talk to each other about ANYTHING and not have to worry that the other is going to get mad makes the whole thing worthwhile. I have a feeling it will happen though. She seems to want it VERY badly. That woman is a firecracker I tell you. She's also pretty shy at the same time which is probably why she hasn't posted anything herself. B
  4. Thanks for the encouragement. I can't wait 'til the weekend so I can talk to her about this some more. We never get to see each other during the week because of our work schedules. It sucks. I really like this board. Almost everybody on it seems mature and friendly. I hope I can meet some people like that around here.
  5. Sounds like good advice biblonde and we will be sure to use it. I searched and found a thread about how much most of the guys seem to enjoy seing her with another guy and the more I read about it the less wierd I feel about it because I know that lots of other guys feel the same way. Like everyone else said, it would be very sexy just to see what her having sex looks like from the "outside" so to speak. I think it's just all about finding someone we can be comfortable with. I think if she really wants this then it it pretty inevitable that it will happen. We only get one try at life and I'd hate to not know what this is like. Man I'm such a perv!
  6. Thanks for all the kind words and advice EBF and biblonde. You guys are really nice. Too bad you guys aren't close by, I'm sure C would like to get to know you. Part of the thing that was so cool and makes me excited is that when she indicated she was receptive to the idea of swinging it gave me a glimpse of a wantonly sexual side of her that doesn't come out as often as I'd like. She's extremely sexy when she lets it all out. It would be interesting to see how she acts with other people because she really is quite shy with people she doesn't know. It would be nice to see her break out of her shell a little. B
  7. Thanks all for the replies. I should probably clarify something. We are engaged to be married but that doesn't mean we haven't been together long. We have been together for over three years and engaged for about one and a half years. The only reason we are not married is that we don't make much money and we want to have a nice wedding and not just go down to the courthouse and get hitched. I just wanted to mention this so that you didn't think we are a couple who barely know each other yet. I don't think it would be possible to be emotionally closer to someone than I am with C. That's why I am pretty sure she isn't just telling me what she thinks I want to hear. The concept of letting her have sex with another person is not a new one, it's just that before the fantasy was exclusively me watching her with another woman which she is seriously into. I don't really have any reservations about her playing with a girl, which seems to be pretty common among us guys. I guess it's almost a double standard to be all rah-rah about her being with a girl and scared about her being with a guy, but it's probably because I don't see other girls as potential rivals for her love and of course there is the whole feeling of possessiveness (it's just a gut feeling, I know I don't own her). That's the thing though, those are just knee-jerk feelings. I know intellectually that she is probably capable of having sex with anyone else and will always come back to me. Anyway, don't worry guys we are not going to rush out this weekend and try to get it on with someone. I know she and I will be doing much more talking about it before anything gets even close to happening. The talking about it is half the fun, it's exciting to talk about something new like this with her. B
  8. Hi, this is my first post here. This past weekend, after I had be perusing this site for a few days I decided to find out how my fiancee felt about the idea of swinging. I was a little apprehensive about bringing it up because I had kind of hinted at it before and she had given signals that she wasn't into it, but I felt like she was just too shy to admit that she had any thoughts of that kind and it turned out I was right. She admitted to me that the idea of having two guys at once really turned her on. It's very exciting to know that she is even considering the possiblility of trying it at some point. She also acknowledged that there is a flip side to me allowing her to have sex with another man which is me having sex with another woman. I think I will have to let her have the man first, which I'm willing to do if we ever get to the point of actually doing this. It's such a strange place to be in right now. I love my fiancee more than anything in the world and I am seriously considering letting someone else have sex with her. I asked her if she could have sex with someone else and still love me and she said yes, and I believe her because she is a (naughty) angel and would never lie to me, and I know that no matter what kind of physical contact I may ever have with another woman that nobody else is my Angel and I'll love her forever. That's what I call her, my Angel. I think it would be very arousing to see her have sex with someone else, but I keep wondering if I'm going to feel like I've lost something special if I let someone else touch her. She was a virgin when she met me, and I very nearly was ( I had one sorry little encounter before I met her that I wish had never happened, but that is a whole 'nother story). Did any of you guys out there feel like that the first time you saw your wife penetrated by another man? I know communication is key, and we have great communication so nothing is going to happen unless we are both comfortable with it, but you never really know what you are going to do at the moment of truth until it happens. I'd really like to hear how other guys felt at that moment. I'd like to hear what the girls have to say too actually. Thanks for reading my long post, B
×
×
  • Create New...