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Sun ..you are on point...I have been with 2 women that say they only did it for me.. supposed just going along with it

Nudist.. thank you! those are some really good suggestions, that alpha thing really hits me personally.. I've been looking a lot into hotwifing recently, listening to other alpha guys talk about how much they enjoy hotwifing is really helping me process and work through things, and I always enjoy growing sexually in this lifestyle!

Yea my intention is not to stop swinging at all lol.. just evolve

Cpl- you are exactly right

We actually sound very similar I'm the quieter one she's very bubbly.. we actually played with this guy before, so he wasn't a stranger or anything I gave her the go-ahead actually, and she knows I struggle with it, at first it was fine I think that just after a while 30 -40 mins, it got to be a little difficult for me. I think it is because our intimate connection the holding hands the stuff like that is very important to me in our relationship. But it is something I'm trying to work on because I realize it's part of the full package with her.

The wife really enjoys the social part of swinging like the parties before sex, she likes to flirt you know and sit on guys laps stuff like that. sometimes I will be at the bar getting a drink and I come back and she's on somebody's lap..and it's really hard for me I feel like the third wheel when it happens, and we're considering taking a break from swinging or just stopping all together because our arguments have gotten so bad and we normally don't argue..part of me feel like this is my fault I really need to try to get more comfortable with her enjoying herself and maybe find a way to cope with it..or maybe it is just because we are different I don't swing to cuddle or flirt with women..just want sex..when we get on to the sex everything is fine ... we are full swap couple we don't even have a kissing rule and that's totally OK I can't think of any time that we've been together having group sex where I've had any issues like this..but for some reason her sitting alone with somebody else other than me in an intimate way really gets to me. I was wondering if anybody else had the same situation and if they came up with any good coping mechanisms? It makes her very happy to do these things, and it may help her get warmed up, I know she's still mine but she sitting in some other guy's lap, so I want to try to adjust. Any helpful advice would be great thanks!

some good points here! thanks! We enjoy playing together because we like watching each other get off..and we are just not used to sex without orgasms but i guess its not a deal breaker..or is it?? Who wants to have sex with no orgasm? lol

We are new to the lifestyle and new to the forum so please let us ask a naive question. We've had a handful of experiences with single guys, gals, and couples. We have fun! But...we've both never really had orgasms during group play, we feel the sex with each other alone is way better than any group situation we have been in so far. Only thing i can think of is when we go to swinger parties or for the most part, we will find a couple that we like personality wise but may not be so much physically attracted to, is that what we are doing wrong? We are a younger couple, but yet to find couples that are closer to our age, could that be it? Group play is exciting and fun but normally when its just the two of us she cums 3-4 times and we both feel fully pleasured compared to group play. We both love sex so much that we are a bit stumped.. Is it normal to have mediocre group sex?