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cavykitty

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About cavykitty

  • Rank
    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 08/04/1987

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  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Iowa
  • Swinging Experience
    New
  • Anniversary
    xx/xx/xxxx
  1. Hubby and I are newbies and have yet to have our first experience. And not for lack of trying. We've perused different matching sites, craigslist, etc. We found our first couple just before the new year and had planned a hotel get together for NYE. Everything was great and ready to roll as of 5PM NYE. We'd rented the room, picked up the snacks and drinks. We were supposed to meet at the hotel around 8PM. Then suddenly about an hour before we were to meet, the other couple called it all off with a weird and bogus excuse. Then we were out a lot of money for a room that never even got used. We waited a bit and found another couple recently. They seemed absolutely perfect. They had experience swinging. They invited us over for a little get together at their home. The premise was that we would get to know each other and advance toward the "end goal" by the end of the night. We played pool and board games. The guy was really touchy feely, which I enjoyed, and hubby attempted to put the move on her, but she seemed resistant. As the night progressed, the other couple disappeared upstairs for a bit and when she came back she sat down, alone, and said "Okay, here's the deal. I don't want to play tonight. We are having guilt issues. I hope you understand." Of course I was understanding and respectful as was hubby. He came down after a bit and seemed upset. Then we played strip poker which ended with me being stark naked. We pretty much immediately left afterward. The next morning the male of the couple insinuated that his wife had been uncomfortable and nervous. They hadn't done this in a while. I was okay with that and stated we'd enjoyed their company and would hope to get together again. Originally there had been talk about getting together again this upcoming weekend. They've gone completely silent. I did send him a message apologizing if we had made her uncomfortable for any reason or if it was felt there was a boundary crossed that she hadn't wished to cross. That we enjoyed their company and had fun and that hubby and I could see them as playmates if they still wished, or even platonic friends. Still radio silence. I feel like we keep finding "duds". Or perhaps we are doing something wrong. I genuinely feel bad for making the female of the second couple uneasy or if my hubby had said or done something untoward. The male in the 2nd couple seemed seriously interested, so something had to have been wrong on her end. To note, we've played around with the ideas that perhaps she had a problem with my husbands weight, which I would understand not everyone is okay with some extra pounds. We had traded photos in advance so his weight should not have been a surprise. What could we be doing wrong? Was I out of line admitting and apologizing for anything that may have or may not have happened with Couple#2? I just wish more people would be open and honest and just say "Sorry, we're just not that into you" rather than ghosting. It won't hurt our feelings and we certainly would appreciate the honesty. If it is something else, like one of us said or did something, just tell us. I'm at a loss of what to do next and about to just give it all up. (Btw, we live in a smaller area where swinging isn't immensely popular so finding other couples is like searching for diamonds).
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