We are brand new and have never done more than talk about swinging, but the talks are serious. My biggest hold up is that we live in a small conservative community and we don't want it to be known to our family and friends that we are doing this. We would be going 30min away to a club to start, but chances are we will at some point run into a friend-of-a-friend or what have you.
I don't think our situation is all that unique, but idk. Do you find that most people are not openly swingers? What, if anything, do you do to protect your privacy?