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Patrberg

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About Patrberg

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    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 06/02/1977

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    Couple/m/f
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    Seattle
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  1. There's a lot of interesting stories here. As to my wife and I, I think that we've actually been discussing it in code for the better part of our marriage (so, close to 20 years). As to discussing the idea in less abstract terms, well... it all started with me asking my wife what her deepest darkest sexual fantasies were. Upon being asked about her fantasies my wife basically gave a very generic "romantic sex" answer, but then insinuated that there may be more things but she was too embarrassed. I like writing, so I decided to write erotic literature for her, mainly to open up a surrogate dialog and help her not feel embarrassed. Basically I tried to guess at what her fantasies were and and wrote sort of scattershot, refining the stories with each "review" my wife gave. It quickly became very apparent that she had exhibitionist fantasies that slanted heavily towards gang bangs, light humiliation, putting on a show, and sex with strangers in unconventional places. So for fun I decided to write her a sexual questionnaire with 60+ multiple-choice questions, and then set aside some time to have a very frank very open conversation regarding her turn-ons. After the dust settled and all the cards were on the table we both realized that she had a wild exhibitionist kink, and I had a pretty substantial voyeuristic fetish... It was like two pieces just went click. The linchpin to the conversation was one single moment, where she looked at me and said "you don't really want to watch a stranger slide his cock in me do you?" She said it with a sort of wide-eyed look that said, and with a vernacular that said, if you say yes I'm going to confess everything that has ever turned me on. There was a long pause, and I scooted in close to her and told her if it turned her on I would absolutely watch her do that. And we were off to the races, she basically had to steady herself on the furniture in order to regain composure and continue the conversation A few of her more prevalent fantasies, meaning ones that she had given serious consideration making a reality (i.e. talking to me about the possibility of making it happen) where the mfm threesome, a gang bang situation, putting on a show with observers present, and more than a passing curiosity at goings-on in sex clubs and swinger parties. I was both floored and not surprised at the same time. Not surprised as I knew she definitely had a kinky streak, especially the things that she would talk about when she had been drinking. But floored at her frank honesty regarding being curious at the possibility of making these things a reality. Her main fear was that I would be angry and judgmental, as I tend to be a little judgmental sometimes. Or that confessing any of this would drive us apart in any way, as all her fantasies revolved around US, rather than just her (she wanted me to be into it) I basically told her in no uncertain terms that the idea of winding her up and watching her go was a massive turn on, and nothing that she had said was either shocking or upsetting. This conversation stands as probably one of the most amazingly erotic events of my life. Oh, and hilariously, I ended up compiling all of the short stories into a series of small books and started selling them on Amazon. Which added a nice exhibitionist turn on for my wife because they were all about her. I'm not sure that there is anything better than finding out that your partner is as kinky as you.
  2. Thanks for the response. Interesting, funny thing is my wife and I have actually been invited to a few "housewarming" party's, but I, like many men, didn't pick up on the subtle clues my wife was spamming out into the ether regarding being curious about attending. Sometimes "I don't know that sounds weird" actually means "if you say yes first, I'll say hell-yes!" I'm sort of glad that we have hit the blunt stage of communication.
  3. I have a question for the learned people here. First off a little about us. My wife is 37 (she looks around 29, and is very cute and curvy, no it's not just because I'm her husband) I'm 40, and we've been together since she was 18. Our marriage is really strong, and we are not looking into this to "fix" anything, I know that that's an immediate concern on a lot of forum postings (it is nice to see that people look out for each other). Back when we were young we use to hit a lot of the goth clubs, and sometimes we would go on the bdS&M or "sex positive" nights, but we never did anything but dance, and usually after doing a fair amount of people watching, go home and boink each others brains out. Then, along came kids and responsibility and adulthood. Though we never stopped being kinky, and constantly challenging each other's sexual notions, we did drop out of any sort of club scene. On a side note, I am a writer and photographer, and for years now we played a little game where I would try to guess the kinks that turned her on by writing stories with her as the star. Recently, after writing her a similarly themed story, we begin to talk about the exhilarating feeling of going out to the clubs, and she really begin to express interest in possibly visiting an on-site venue. She is very much an exhibitionist, and I am very much a voyeur, we are perfectly matched. After a bit of research I found that there are quite a few clubs in our area, and quickly got us invited to more than one (when she found out I had done this it turned her on no end, so she's not exactly timid about the idea). After discussing everything frankly, honestly, and openly we both came to the conclusion that a visit to the club would be a lot of fun. We are both confident/trusting in each other, and comfortable in our own skins. Our marriage could honestly survive a neutron bomb, let alone some dude sticking his cock in my wife's very aroused pussy... That being said, we are really not interested in swapping. I guess the "hot wife"scenario is closer to how we feel, but even that's not completely correct. heh, I get off on her getting off, and she gets off on me getting off on her getting off. Here in comes the question. We really want to go to a club or event where we can be wallflowers, and if she wants to, and feels comfortable enough, she can jump in and play with a male attendee, or two, or three:D (If they are equally interested in playing with her of course) Most clubs seem to look down on single males, and I don't know what the etiquette is regarding the other wife feeling left out (since it's more about my wife's sexual liberation then any sort of swap) I don't know, maybe I'm overthinking it, as we've never been to one of these clubs, but do some couples split up and do their own thing, or is there a specific type of venue that we should attend if we are interested in more a bilateral situation. We definitely aren't interested in adult personals, or setting up any sort of long drawn out scenario.. We just want to go somewhere and be wallflowers until she decides that it's time to be naughty with some anonymous someone, and even if that does or doesn't happen we will probably put on show ourselves. My wife has said that the gang bang nights some of the clubs have really arouse her curiosity, but are definitely too extreme for dipping your toe in the water... Right now she's just thinking about touching, oral, and maybe intercourse (the more exhibitionist the better) Please excuse the messy punctuation and wall of text I am sort of going stream of consciousness. Everything written here comes from the both of us and not just the husband. Oh and I should probably mention that we are completely aware that we can expect everything to happen on the first night, or second night, or maybe even third night. We just wanted to get some perspective on where it might happen when it does.
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