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  • Birthday 07/13/1972

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    10/21/1999

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  1. If I were in this situation I'd say "We're done." Goose, meet gander.
  2. Want? Sure. We all want that. Deserve? That's a stretch. One half of a couple deserves it and the other doesn't? That's hardly equitable. All for one and one for all, I say.
  3. I would tell her: "I am glad you shared your fantasies with me. I haven't had as much time to think about this as you have. Let's talk some more!" Get more information, ask for details of fantasies, ask for boundaries and her thoughts on rules, etc. Don't be afraid to take it slow and say "For now I'm open to X" and loosen your boundaries over time as (and if) you grow more comfortable. I would find out who this couple is and what they have been saying. But, its also possible (as she won't identify them) that they are a fictional conceit to hang her fantasies on. If so, I recommend not being angry. It can be hard opening yourself up to being vulnerable and laying your desires bare for your partner. This takes trust, time, and communication. If its right, you'll get there... together.
  4. I would suggest: "You're both great. You do this thing I like. He does this thing I like. Let's make sure you can do both things!"
  5. The only way to find out is to ask! Just make sure you preface whatever conversation you need to have with how much you enjoy their company.
  6. The correct frequency is the one that works for you. We have swinging-related excursions 1-2 times per month (club, meet another couple, etc). Swinging only works when you nurture your own romantic relationship. So, if you need more "us time" to strengthen your own coupling, take it. We had a lady from a more experienced couple share a useful anecdote with us. There was a point where her husband lost interest in swinging. She said, over a period of weeks and conversation, she realized it was because they were swinging all the time and weren't having their own date nights and regular playtime as a couple. She said refocusing on that reignited his interest in swinging again. I would say, swing as often as feels right for you, but be mindful of your own relationship in the process. Trial and error will teach you what is best FOR THE TWO OF YOU.
  7. Babe prefers single men talk to me first. Its not about permission. Its about her wanting my read on them before talking to them herself. And, honestly, I prefer not to deal with single women at all. If Babe introduces me to one I'll chat her up, but I really don't like it when they walk up to me and initiate. The reason is simple: they almost invariably pretend Babe isn't there. Couples almost never do that. If you want to play with a coupled person, take the time to make their other half feel respected and comfortable. Because, if they don't your odds of success drop dramatically. Babe and I always make a point of paying attention to the same sex half of couples we meet because you are, weirdly enough, seducing both of them. One for sex and the other to be comfortsble with that sex.
  8. "It has been a pleasure meeting you." [shake Hand, Move On...]. On the other hand, I had a lady from a couple we were chatting with at a club this past weekend say "we're moving on" in a way that implied "interview over." The husband had clearly been interested in Babe and she had said they only play as a couple, so I assumed she wasn't interested in me. She said it with a smile and I took it in stride with a shrug. We received a note from her two-days later saying they were both hoping to see us at the club again very soon. I realized I may have read that one wrong. We had another couple we assumed found us "meh" (the wife seemed cautious and the husband patted my arm and excused himself). They also reached out the next day to ask when we'd be at the club again. I realized later that both were much more experienced couples than we are and their tactic may be "speed-dating interviews" to identify good candidates for later encounters.
  9. I have never had it done to me. I do enjoy doing it to Babe. She loves it and freaks out about it all at once.
  10. Well, it was... Interesting. And, while being a bit of curve ball, ended up being hot. All three couples were a bust. Couple One: we didn't like the way they related to one another; it was uncomfortable. Not at all our cup of tea. They also smelled like cigarette smoke, which makes my nose itch and my throat scratchy. I don't care if people smoke afterward, but, before and during sex? No. Just no. Babe finds that unappealing, too. Couple Two: they were nice and pleasant to talk, but the conversation was bland. It wasn't a match. We all kept it brief and kept moving. Couple Three: were corralled into a corner by couple one before we could chat and remained ensconced in conversation all night long. More power to them! But, we ended up having some sexy fun, anyways. Babe turned a lot of heads. We ended up in a very free-flowing conversation with two other couples (one from the "core" group; one new) conversation that had other people float in and out of it, which moved to the dance floor. It turned into a six person bump and grind, which was a lot of fun. Babe loved it. But, then we lost track of the other couples so we migrated to a play room with several couples in it and started an extended, hot, sweaty bout of vigorous sex. Babe was super-turned on and responsive. One coupled moved right up next to use so they could politely perv on our action while getting it on themselves. The woman reached over and grabbed my bicep when she came. When that couple left the two couples we'd lost track of showed up. I wouldn't call it a "swap" per se, but we all had sex with our own partners in very close proximity to one another with a lot of wandering hands and mouths. It was extremely hot. We both loved it. Afterward, when we were dressed and grabbing snacks and re-hydrating, I had a feel good moment. I have some body image issues and Babe telling me I'm good looking hasn't really sunk in. She's my wife. She has to say that! Anyways, there was a triad at the party who are regulars. One of them is a tall and fit Asian gal who is just sensational. I turned around to find her discreetly checking me out. I'm still new enough to find a woman clad only in heels and a micro-thong novel, titillating, and startling all at once. Our eyes met and she gave me a giant grin before sauntering off. It made me think: "I'm not hopeless." So, we'll be back after the holidays for another go!
  11. Vunderbar! I hope the second encounter is even better for you both than the first!
  12. We've been to a few parties at our local club, but have just enjoyed the sexy atmosphere and played with one another to date. This is partly due to our being slow movers and settling in, and party due to the infamously isolationist "Seattle Freeze." Recently our club revamped its website with a social-media style "members area" and we've been astonished by the attention and openness it has generated. We are going to a party tonight and have had three different couples who are also going intimate they'd like to "chat." All three have profiles that appeal in one way or another. We're at a point where we are ready to cut-loose and play. Wish us luck! Note: we had two other couples indicate they'd like to meet for dinner sometime, too! We're hermits on weekdays. Its crazy!
  13. Our non-monogamy mainstay thus far has been MFM. I am content with Babe, but Babe has indicated seeing me with another woman would make her "hot." Ape is hot when Babe is hot so... we shall be trying for a MFMF.
  14. Babe does; Ape doesn't. Caveat: Babe needs oral or toys to cum. Caveat: Babe knows how to make ape cum and gets him off afterward. I get off on getting ladies off. That's what makes me hot. I plan to coax it out of them when we flirt and during foreplay. After all, I'm not a telepath. They're going to have to tell me!
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