Gandt11

Before we had gotten into the lifestyle, I always had an issue with keeping true to a monogamous relationship. Finally we discovered swinging and that was a total game changer. I was no longer dishonest with my wife, we indulged in many things together and I had a new found passion. However, now my wife has decided she no longer wants to be a part of it and I couldn't honestly or happily continue on without her. Not to mention my new favorite fetish is cuckolding and ya kinda need the wife in the picture for that... anyhow, I truly feel like if we were to completely stop and never do this again, I would not be happy or feel completely fulfilled. But I can't lose or leave my wife, we have too much together and I love her so much. Any advice? Her reasons are because we never have time, our location is not the best, and she has found religion that obviously has rules against such acts.

Thank you guys, thank you so much. At times I can be overly selfish and start thinking about myself and my carnal desires a bit too much. I know it's something she enjoys also but it's something she has to enjoy when she feels like it, not only me. Put alot of things into perspective, I really appreciate it.

We're a young couple who've been partially active in the lifestyle for about 2 years now. When we first started looking we almost immediately found a couple we paired with very well and had great fun with them. But since then all we've done is talked about it and look on AFF every now and again with nothing ever happening. She seems to have somewhat lost interest even though she says she wouldn't mind if it happened again, she just doesn't go out of her way to look. She seems almost completely unmotivated towards it and rarely brings it up. She says she wants to lose weight and get herself in better shape and that will help her get more interested in it, but I think she's gorgeous and I know others would think so too. I want to try and set her up without her knowing, making it seem spontaneous. And I also want her to try and get some guy friends to help her out, but I don't want to come across to bold towards the situation and deter her from it completely. The biggest issue is we live in a small town where I pretty much know everyone and that keeps her from trying to do anything. Any advice?