hi,
I have conflicting emotions about swinging. conflicting thoughts. I discovered swinging when I wanted to broaden my horizon from BDSM but did not like it since it did not have the structure & accountability seen in BDSM. I also discovered Libchrist. read the literature & eventually gave everything up. maybe its an itch but whatever it is, I am back, looking again. I was determined to test the waters this time but after reading the stories of a particular polyamory group who separated after 20 years & ended up being monogamous. I was stumped. do I stay in my safe, albeit boring marriage or do I risk STD's, possible loss of my marriage & go out there> what to do? what to do?