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  1. If your going to Dallas, I do recommend trying Colette on a Saturday night. We have not really taken the plunge either. But, we have been to Colette once and had a great time. We talk about returning, but have been just too busy with other things in our lives. Also, my wife is VERY paranoid about STD's. She has always been into sex and had many boyfriends before me, but never had a one night stand out of STD fear. Also, one of my wife's best friends growing up is like this. Her friend used to love watching her boyfriends with other women. We have not seen her since she got married, but are always wondering if that has changed or not since the marriage. I seriously doubt that she has changed, because watching her man is what really turned her on and a marriage is not going to change that.
  2. I check into this forum about once a month. This is one of the best threads, with incredibly helpful responses, that I have ever seen here. My wife and I visited a club over the summer, had a great time and were ready to take the first timer plunge when a situation was right. I had complete confidence that no hard feelings or extreme jealousy would occur from seeing her with another man. Then, our marriage hit a rough patch for a few months and we have not been as close as usual(8 years married). I am sure that we will work through things. But, with that rough patch, all talk of playing with others has stopped. I realized that sharing her with others will only work for me if things are going great between us. If I sense a disconnect between us, I realize that jealousy may also crop up that is not usually present. This made me realize that if there is any doubt at all, don't do it. Of course, I am confident that we will get through the holidays and our situation will also improve. Then, we can revisit what we started.
  3. We have been to 1 club that is a little more high end, which I thought was going to be more dressy than it was. The women were generally really dressed. The guys, not so much. My wife wore a short black dress and looked fabulous. I wore white casual pants (summer), black dress shoes and a black dress shirt. I expected my wife to get all the attention as she is gorgeous. But, that is not what happened and we were both approached about equally. I attribute that to the fact that I was probably dressed better than 90% of the men there and the fact that we were laughing and having a great time (my wife helped of course). It was our first time and we were there to observe. But, we fit right in and will be returning at some point.
  4. To the OP. I am so sorry that things went down this way. Your experience is also my biggest fear in this hobby (which I just mentioned in another post). On the one hand, your wife was honest with you, which still keeps the trust between you. But, what happens if you don't agree with what she wants ? Will she start doing it anyway behind your back ? I am honest to a fault and want the same in a partner. But, I would probably be hurt as well if my wife approached me the same way, despite the face that I would appreciate her honesty. Please keep us updated. I hope that things work out for you guys. Cheers.
  5. We are still in our early stages in this hobby. Even at this point, I know that I will be fine with any activity that is done together (MFM, MFMF or FMF). However, I don't think I could ever deal with an open marriage, poly situation or hot-wife hobby. I am very open minded and don't see myself as a jealous type. But, at least for me, dating other people on the side is the same as being single. And, if I wanted to be single, I would be. Maybe my views will change later on as we get more experienced in this hobby. I have made it clear to my wife that I am good with anything, as long as I am at least present (does not have to be same room). Hopefully, she feels the same. If not, it could be a problem someday I have tried to analyze my feelings on this subject. Maybe it is a form of jealousy. Maybe it is a fear of losing her if she bonds with someone else emotionally. She has told me herself that sex for her can create endorphins, which could lead to an artificial bond. That is why she has never been a promiscuous woman, even when single, despite that fact that she has always been an open-minded and sexual being.
  6. This is a great point and something we discussed afterwards. We usually stay out until around midnight these days. But, the fun really didn't get started until after midnight on saturday. We finally got to sleep around 5:00am (after playing at home) and pretty much slept in the entire day on sunday. So yes, going out like that again will need to be a weekend event Still, we both said it was worth it. I can see the next time being unscheduled, when we are already out on the time and decide to pop in after midnight.
  7. Hello. Since everyone has been so helpful on this forum, I wanted to check in and give our first timers report. This is not really an erotic post. So, feel free to skip it if no interested. We arrived at Colette Dallas about 9:30, which is a little too early IMO. As everyone here had said, the hardest part was walking through the door. As first timers, we received the grand tour from the host. Being a saturday night and also sdc.com night, it was really packed later. I would say there were easily 200 couples with most late arrivals (around midnight). For us as first timers, the big crowd was a plus as it allowed us to see the different types of people that the club attracts and meet lots of different people. It didn't take very long for us to settle in and become comfortable socializing with other couples. The dance floor was lively and that led to a lot of social interaction. As has been said in the forum, everyone that we met were friendly and patient with us being first timers. Nobody was pushy and boundaries were respected. Yes we were propositioned. But, it was done with class. I think the way LS clubs will work for us in the future is that we will go with no expectations, only to have fun with similar, open-minded couples and individuals. We certainly like the sexually charged environment. If the right situation comes up, we are both open to the idea of taking it further. We trust each other and agreed that no boundaries were needed. If something more had happened that night, I really think we would be comfortable with anything that took place. We considered playing in one of the private rooms with each other before leaving, to break the ice. But, all the curtains were drawn as it was packed. In fact, you could barely make it through the hallways where the semi-private and private rooms were located. We also noticed that most women seem either full bi or at least bi curious. I was asked a lot if my wife plays with other women. My response was that while she is open-minded and would play along, she really prefers men. At least, those have been my wife's words to me. I am not sure if bi or bi-curious women are ok with that or not. Overall, we had a blast. after the first hour we thought it might be a short night. But, it was 2:30 before we left. Would we return to Colette (or another club) ? Absolutely. It just won't be a frequent thing for us. But, the door has been opened and there was nothing negative to turn us off in the future. I know there is not much erotic here about my reply. But, it might help other first timers that are nervous about taking the leap. Cheers
  8. My wife and I have been talking about testing the waters in a club for about a year now. It looks like we are going for the first time this coming weekend (probably Colette). Neither of us are sure if swinging is a good option for us (after 8 years together). But, we have talked about trying new things in our marriage so much, that we need to at least take the first step finally. We are both very outgoing, social and open-minded. But, we are both very picky and would need to be seduced by others who are classy and sex is second to the seduction. My wife is beautiful (5'6", 124lbs) and will draw a lot of attention (and she is a bit of an exhibitionist). While I am excited by our decision to go this weekend, I am also pretty nervous. I have visions of every eye being on my wife as we walk through the door, like she is a piece of meat. Walking through the door and settling in is going to be the most difficult part for me I think. But, it is time to dip our toes in the water. There is only one way to find things out. FWIW-we have discussed all our boundaries already (very few). So, there should not be any surprises.
  9. This is an interesting subject to me that I just came across. FWIW, You guys are exactly the same age gap (and ages) as my wife and I. We are still looking at attending our first club in the next few months (I had a recent surgery from a sports accident which has delayed things). At this point, we are just curious more than anything and this is something on our bucket list to try. We are both open minded about the possibility of sharing, but only in the right situation. Neither of us are one-night stand type of individuals. We have to get to know someone first. Our age gap is one of my biggest concerns. I can see walking into a club and immediately getting judged based on our age gap. I think the best case would occur where the other wife was bi and somewhat interested in my wife. My wife is technically not bi. But, she is open minded and would play out any situation if it is the right environment.
  10. Good luck to you on this. Don't forget to have your 'T' levels checked. I am a very healthy and fit 55 year old. But, I get SottePelle pellets every 6 months to raise my hormone levels to the normal range. My wife and I want to play if the right situation arises. But, I also worry about performance anxiety if the situation is not right. We are sensual people who like slower seductions. Aggressive people would be a turnoff for us. With that said, watching my wife perform with someone else (M or F as she is an exhibitionist) would probably remove any performance anxiety issues as that would be a super turn on for us both. A MMF or MFF may actually be better for us with my wife as the center of attention.
  11. My wife and I keep talking about visiting our first swingers club. We have also discussed that if the right opportunity arose in life, we would both be OK sharing each other with another couple as an experiment. My wife is younger, social/flirty, gorgeous, but completely devoted to me and I know that. The fact that I am so sure about the strength of our relationship, allows me to feel comfortable with her experiencing any fantasy she has, as long as it is not behind my back (she feels the same). Also, there are no secrets....ever. As a man, there are rules that I would insist on. First, if I share my wife, that person has to be highly respectful of both myself and my wife. I doubt this would be a problem because neither of us can tolerate egos or assholes. Second, any man that would be with my wife, would need to know that I am an alpha male, not a cuckhold. The way I see it, I have been blessed to be with this gorgeous person for 7 years, why not let somebody else that is a good person enjoy her for a special event if she is OK with it. Also, if we share with others, it would need to be in the same room, at least at first (we both insist upon that). I do not think that most men are both confident in themselves and confident in their relationships. I think in order for this to work for you, your husband would probably have to be both. The biggest problem that I would have sharing my wife would be with a guy who is disrespectful. Other than that, I think that I would (or will) be fine with that. I would bet that is true of most husbands. Anyway, I thought I would write as we are still in the "thinking about it" mode and this is from the perspective of a guy that is OK with moving forward, under the right conditions. Cheers
  12. We are just considering our first visit to a "club" and will see what happens from there. I am a very fit 55 and my wife is a gorgeous and fit 37 year old. My wife has always preferred men at least 10 years older than her because of the maturity factor. We have been together over 10 years now and know and trust each other very well. I know a lot of couples with a big age difference don't usually last. But, because of the trust factor, ours will. Also, my wife knows that she can pretty much have any fantasy fulfilled that she wants, if she ever wants it (no real interest right now but she is open to the possibility if the right situation comes up).
  13. I had one more question about Colette in Dallas if anybody has been. Are there any private areas where Couples can make love without attracting an audience ? I know that my wife has exhibitionist tendencies. Her fantasies, according to her, usually involve us making out with people watching. But, I am a more private person and would need to feel comfortable to perform, except for oral of course. Another couple would probably not bother me. But, a larger audience would take some getting used to on my part.
  14. Thank you. That makes me feel better about things. I appreciate the comment.
  15. Hello. I was visiting this board and signed up just to reply/comment on this thread. My wife and I are also considering making a visit to this club, because it looks like a fantasyland and we are an open-minded couple. We have a very close and confident relationship and often discuss our fantasies. Our relationship is purely monogomous at this point and we would never have an open relationship. But, we have agreed that if the right opportunity came up, in the right situation, we would both be OK with sharing ourselves with others. However, we are both very picky and probably would prefer to see our partner pleased by someone else rather than enjoying others ourselves. We said if we ever experimented with another couple or individual, it would probably be on vacation where there would be no future contact. So, we keep talking about visiting Colette. However, we are somewhat leery because the location is so close (DFW). And, we might feel bad because we would probably be going for the experience and most likely not really to play with others. This might not normally be an issue, but we are a very fit couple and my wife is younger (late 30's), gorgeous and very social/friendly. We are afraid of having to reject other couples that we would just want to be friendly with. I don't know how attractive the clientele is here at the club. But, I know my wife is just stunning. I am lucky to be with her and she knows that she has the freedom to experience any fantasy that she may have in the future, as long as we do it together. So, that is our story. The club looks fantastic to us and we are both open to new experiences. I just don't know if we will ever get the nerve up to go. My biggest fear is making people angry because we are really just going there the first time to browse and maybe meet some new open-minded people. I don't mean for anything I said to come across as egotistical on our part. We get along with everyone. But, we just don't know how serious people are there about hooking up and don't want to offend anyone.
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