AZMan69

So your saying if she was messing around while traveling (and I was too as we knew this was going to happen), that I would still be upset? I'm not there. I guess I was thinking I would be ok with it. It wouldn't bother me.

I don't know that I wouldn't be excited. I think I might feel a little excited, but at the same time I would probably feel like I'm not getting her best. I would feel left out. Doesn't each party having sex with someone else take the cheating thing out of the equation? One part of me thinks it might be inconsequential that she has a Tinder hookup or something random on a trip when here I am drowning in pussy possibly while she's gone. I don't know. That's where my thinking was I guess. Why would I care if she's getting railed while traveling if I am too at home? I would probably want her to have fun like I am. Not sure. Just a thought.

Hi All, My wife and I have been married for 18 years. This is my second marriage. My first marriage ended with my first wife cheating on me. My ex did this specifically when she travelled. Consequently, I have serious anxiety with my current wife traveling. My wife was a stay at home mom when we got married, so there really was no indication of a need to travel. Now she has a new job where she travels a little bit. Conferences, meetings, dinners, etc. I'm no idiot in regard to what goes on with business travel. Most of the coworkers I encountered (especially women; appeared due to ability) fucked around on business travel. I see some similar things going on now with my current wife and ex. Loss of interest in sex, lack of excitement, etc. needless to say I have concerns with the travel. So I had a really strange idea. I thought if you can't beat them, then why not join them. I mean, I can just go into this knowing she's probably getting plowed as I might be too while she's gone. I was thinking maybe I would try and talk her into swinging. We could start out doing same room type of stuff with couples. Then from there I'll bet she would just sign off on me going to play with couples with permission while she's traveling. We can then exchange stories. Again, it's just an idea. I don't want to be a chump, and I don't want her to get emotionally attached to some guy. Does anyone on here see that this helped their situation? I've done plenty of research, and believe if we get to the point where we both have sex as a couple then were good from there. I look forward to your responses.