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3waypleasure last won the day on October 2 2017

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About 3waypleasure

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  • Birthday 01/01/1968

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  1. Even if you know you are solid in your relationship there can still be many insecurities, knowing your partner is going to be with someone new. The first time I seen my wife with another man, I felt sick to my stomach, and I was the one that encouraged it to begin with. Even now, I still don't enjoy watching or knowing she is with another guy. For me it was the 'my property' mentality that was the biggest hangup with sharing her. It is the passion we feel and the 'reclaiming' of her that is the big turn on for both of us. I am very confident in my abilities, so it wasn't a fear that she was going to find someone better at sex then me. If I didn't have that confidence, there is no way I could have shared her in the first place. I'm a very competitive person, and the lifestyle has made me "up my game" especially after seeing her get fucked good a few times. The insecurities can be real. It's a big step that shouldn't be pushed upon someone or taken lightly.
  2. We view swinging as a reward to both of us, as perk to our relationship. For this to work for us, we both have to be 100% in agreement on who we play with, and both of us have full veto power for any reason. If one of us isn't fully into the other couple, there is no way we would play with them, even if we didn't have anything else to do. I think the biggest mistake people make in the lifestyle is putting pressure on themselves to be with others. We were like that when we started, but it has evolved to if we find someone and have a good 4 way connection then we play. If not, we are perfectly content just having sex with each other. I certainly don't want to feel like I am in a position where I have to have sex with someone, just because my wife wants to be with the guy. If she pressed me, it would probably end our swinging completely. I would view it as her being selfish, no one should feel like the are 'owed' anything. There have been many times where I have cock blocked my wife and she has done the same to me. Taking one for the team is simply not an option for us. Swinging should not cause hard feelings or frustration. It needs to be fun, exciting and something you both want to do. Anytime we have felt any tension of frustration because of swinging, we take a break until we are on the same page again.
  3. My wife loves having her pussy licked during doggy style. DVP and 2 dicks in her mouth is also two of her favorites. I'm straight, but certainly don't let it prevent me from trying anything that sounds fun. We are big into role play and dominance/submission. Many of our todo's are more scenes or situations vs sex acts. We have staged a home break in, where I got tied up and they raped her. She didn't know the guys and they acted it out perfectly. It was really hot. My wife wants me to set up a 'play' kidnapping and forced sex for her. Have van stop next to her while she is out walking, several guys shove her in the back of it and take her someplace and force her to service them. I still want want to find a submissive couple and be a dom over them plus my wife.
  4. The best feeling for me are the Durex Real Feel Non-Latex. They are made of polyisoprene and not latex. The seem to run on the bigger side for a "normal" condom, either that or they stretch more. I'm a bit over 8" and find them very comfortable, even forgetting I have one on at times. I have ripped several putting them on, especially if I try to pull it to cover all the way to the base. They cover about 7". They are thin and do tend to break easier than traditional condoms, but have never broke one during actual sex. I also like 'Skyn', but not quite as good as the 'real feel', but they do seem more durable and come in a larger size.
  5. We started swinging because my wife was obsessed with the thought of being taken by multiple men. I put together a birthday surprise for her, and me and 4 other guys fucked and DP her for about 5 hours straight. After that she was a different woman, her sex drive went through the roof. She was hooked Us swinging with couples started out as mainly to give me a chance to get some new pussy, since she loves to be gangbanged frequently. I like it better than MFM, since there isn't much personal interaction between her and the guys. She don't even know their names most of the time. Gangbangs are her main motivation to be in in the lifestyle.
  6. My wife was online looking at profiles this past weekend and found me in the background of another couple's picture. I was standing behind them and clearly checking out the woman's ass. Things like this probably happens quite a bit.
  7. A big difference for us is we don't have a circle of partners. We limit ourselves to being with others to a couple times at most. We try to avoid feelings or any emotional connections. Knowing someone well enough to "care for them" is beyond what we are in this for.
  8. I agree that being with someone new adds to the sexual experience, but if you do anything enough it is no longer 'new' and doesn't generate the same excitement. Kind of like buying the first few new cars is exciting, but after you have done it 100 times it just another car. The truly best sessions for her are gang bangs or multiple men, more of a tag team with a group of very well hung men where she gets pounded hard and long for hours on end. Most of the swinging we do with couples our age (50) I would call "social sex" and not an athletic/hard pounding marathon type of sex that me and my wife enjoy. It's rare that we find a couple that the guy can give her a good long pounding, and many of the women don't enjoy the type of pounding I like to give. It is still exciting for us to be with new people, but is is more of a foreplay for the real sex event when we get home.
  9. I have had male friends tell me to stay away from a certain woman. I was told that she was a "dead fish" in bed, and then played with her a few weeks later. He was 100% right, she laid there completely silent, with her eyes closed, and didn't move. I felt like I was fucking a blow up doll. After about 10 minutes I just gave up. If a woman isn't into it, I have a very difficult time getting into it. Me and my wife try to never speak bad about anyone else in the lifestyle, and try to change topics when others do. Women may talk more, but guys do talk.
  10. We only get out about once a month, which makes it even more difficult. We just tell multiple couples, we will be at a party/event/club on a certain date. Hopefully one of them meet us there. We tend to avoid one on one meetings unless it is early, so if we don't match we can still make it to a club.
  11. I know this is an old post, but sounds exactly like us. We have been swinging for about 10 years and have yet to have better sex with anyone else. Swinging just emphasizes how great sex is between us. As for the original topic, we started swinging back when we were dating and as soon as we became intimate. She had fantasies of multiple men at once, so I helped her fulfill it. MMMMF is still one of our favorite swinging activities. I really think swinging keeps the sex hot between a couple.
  12. My wife has no issue with a woman performing oral on her, but unlikely to return the favor. It has never been a problem. With anything in the lifestyle, you should never feel pressured into doing something your not 100% comfortable with. If someone does something without asking and your not comfortable, stop them right there and then.
  13. If they don't read your profile and show up expecting F/F sex, that is really their problem. Just ask them if F/F sex is a priority for them if the woman is listed as bi. We make it clear in our profile - "We are looking for M/F sex". We leave the details of what that means to when we meet a couple in person, as it can vary based on how attracted she is to the other woman.
  14. If a someone sends us a genuine, well thought out email that indicates they have read our profile interested in meeting, we always respond. If it looks like a generic email they send to many couples, we do not usually respond. I really suggest if you want responses, read the profile, pick out things you identify with and put that in the email. Take the time and make it personal. Templates or mass mailing seldom work.
  15. I emailed a couple my wife's kik Id at 10 pm. The next morning there were 5 messages, then a long nasty message cussing her out because she didn't respond. My wife is far too nice and took the time to explain that people work, sleep, have kids, and very busy lives. She also explained that she doesn't have notifications turned on kik, and only checks kik once a day. She also informed them we only get out maybe once a month, so meeting us can take awhile. She got another nasty response back. So we just blocked them on both kik and SLS. It seems there are people that just don't understand life. There are many couples like us where swinging is a very low priority, and we respond only when we have extra time, which may be the weekend or even the following week. People also seem to be offended when you say lets meet and then give a date 3 weeks or a month from now. Seriously, if that doesn't work, our next time to meet will probably be after the new year. If you are impatient or get offended, you will miss many of the "real" couples that do actually meet.
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