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IntoTheNew

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About IntoTheNew

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    Contributor
  • Birthday 04/03/1978

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  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Louisiana
  • Swinging Experience
    Oh so very new
  • Anniversary
    xx/xx/xxxx
  1. What gets me are the people who contact US, email US with their interest, unlock their pictures, and then radio silence after we say we reciprocate their interest. Maybe SLS could replace the little birdie with a cricket...
  2. It's sad what our culture has told everyone about the value of youth, and how attractiveness and sexiness fade, or only belong to a small group of people, and only so long as they fall into very specific parameters. We're new here and into the lifestyle. I'm not any sort of expert. But I know that, as I'm browsing profiles for who to contact, I'm looking at people, not at bodies. And people are damn sexy and attractive. If I see a spark in someone's eye, a cute face, or something about their personality grabs me...I couldn't care less if they're soft around the middle or saggy somewhere. They're already sexy to me before I even find that much out. Real people are sexy. Loving life is sexy. Having a fit body is... Having a fit body. And it doesn't necessarily mean you'll be sexy, attractive or desirable.
  3. Sure, it's nice to have interest. Yes, I'm glad you liked our profile. I say, hey, we're interested, just need to find time to get together and Kik with y'all. We get together last night and do that, they don't answer, and then this morning I've got five messages... Hello? So you guys are new?You there? Hello? Oh well.... Never mind... Jeez. In less than 12 hours I went from interested to cold... Because of a little impatience. Just a rant, really.
  4. My wife and I have set up our account on SLS and have started to get some interest. But it seems that everyone wants to be contacted via Kik. Like 'nice profile, hit us up on Kik'. Is this pretty common? I get that Kik makes for a good platform to communicate without having to give out all your information but it seems odd that this is the initial contact-to live the conversation off site. I was just wondering if this was usual or not. I'm not necessarily uneasy about it; I haven't even contacted them. It just struck me as weird.
  5. We're not necessarily looking for easy, we're looking for fun, and have decided that the fun we're having together as we work our way into trying this out, is reward enough. Everything else- just finding a couple to play with, then finding a couple we really connect with and is really fun to play with, and whatever else comes over the horizon -that's all secondary to what we're doing together, and it'll come in time. We're already reaping the benefits. Thanks again, all.
  6. If this forum is any indication of the swinging community at large, this is going to be far more comfortable than we ever dreamed. Not to say easy, or not awkward... Y'all have been wonderful around here. We sincerely appreciate that.
  7. That all makes sense, and actually gives me a bit more comfort. My wife and I want to be upfront and would expect the same from any other couple. It sounds like our being above board and honest from the get go is likely to yield the best results, and I'm not sure we could go about any other way. We just need to make sure we're vetting any potential partners as well as we can. I'll probably search the forum for those answers next. The more I read, the more I feel like we're on the same page with those of you that are successful in the lifestyle, both in expectations and in approach.
  8. I really appreciate all of that. We're continuing to talk, and in our discussion of how we would proceed from an initial introduction, that came up: we'd have to be able to talk about the sex, or there's no point! It's not always easy to do so with strangers or new aquaintances, though, so I'm glad you mentioned it- an attempt to not come across as uncomfortable in that discussion hadn't occurred to me, but I can see how it would make another couple hesitant. I believe I said something similar on my intro thread, but the whole vibe here makes it all seem so positive. It's hard not to feel that way after spending time here.
  9. My wife and I are just starting into this. We might be overthinking every step before we make it, but I'd rather do that than not think something through enough. Plus the conversations that come from it feel like they're doing good things for our relationship, and I KNOW they're doing great things for our sex life! In my reading, it seems like there are concerns from some more experienced swingers about playing with an inexperienced couple like us. I can't worry about someone else's hang-ups, but don't want people put off simply because we're newbies. The concerns I've seen brought up include couples only being curious but not actually sure they're truly interested, or flaking out, up to one partner being apparently uninterested in the lifestyle. Sure, we're new, we're a little nervous (the wife prefers to say anxious), and will want to start a little slowly with our first partners, but we are definitely in. So, the question then is: is there something you look for in a profile, or when meeting a couple, that would give a green flag, even though the couple are very new?
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