Alura,thank you so much for your advice and encouragement! Wow, Luvin Eye Full what a stern rebuke. Of course I know that my marriage is the most important thing and I would never do anything to hurt that or my husband! I do understand his concerns and that is why we as a couple are not swinging. I do know that he feels my disappointment. Crushed was probably too strong of a word I will own that but at the time it was all fresh. To answer your question about things not going well we had one couple turn out to be just a man, a man that did not tell his wife about us and a bi male poising as a straight male. Anyway thanks for your advice and I will head your warning of not moving forward.