My husband and I have been in the LS for about 6 months now. We have had some fun experiences and some not so fun ones. Our first full swap couple experience was one of the not so good...it started out "even" - we were all flirting and having fun. After dinner and drinks, we went back to our room, and my husband and the other wife were really into each other. The husband and I proceeded to kiss and such, but he could not get an erection. Maybe alcohol, maybe he was not really into me (but he kept telling me he was), but he got really self conscious and nothing really happened between us. Meanwhile, my husband proceeded to have fun. I figured this was an isolated thing, but about two weeks ago, it happened again with a different couple. Nothing was happening for me, but my husband and the other wife were very into each other and I did not know what to do. My question is, when one "couple" is having a lot of fun in a full swap, but the other is really struggling, what is the right thing to do? Should I ask my husband to stop having sex mid way? He says it is difficult for him to tell if I am having fun, but letting him go at it while I get nothing out of it seems unfair. What have others done in this situation?
