Mrs.Rockin

We started with someone I knew and trusted. I'm not arguing with Sun&Moon, as they have some sound advice that may work for you. But on the other hand, the things Sun&Moon posted to watch out for in a man (constant messages, phone calls, stalking type behavior) are exactly why we chose someone we know and trust. In our case, this person lives about an hour away from us so its not like we run into him around town or anything.

I've heard of people using saran wrap as a barrier for oral sex with a woman. I've never used any kind of "protection" for oral, and if someone tried to put saran wrap over me before going down I think I would just call the whole thing off. lol

Oh also, as far as where to start, when my husband and I decided to definitely go through with it we decided that the first time would be just me with someone we knew well and trusted. We did it that way because we figured if one of us was unable to handle the reality of it, at least the drama would only be between me and my husband rather than dragging someone else into an awkward situation, and we could talk it out privately afterward. I do know that some people advise against this kind of thing with someone you know, but we felt it was best in our particular situation, and it ended up working out really well for us. That's just one idea. And also, our experience really only applies if it is something you are really interested in. If you aren't, don't do it! We wish you the best of luck!

There are a lot of good posts so far. You guys sound a lot like me and my husband. When he brought up the idea of wanting to see me with another man, I was in shock at first, and not into the idea at all. Being with other people is not what I had in mind when we got married. Plus like others have said, I couldn't help but feel like he was trying to get me to do it so he would have an excuse to be with other women, which would just kill me. He would assure me that that wasn't the case, which would make me feel a little better, but I still didn't understand it. Sometimes he would bring it up as "dirty talk" while we were having sex, which would sometimes be kind of a turn-on for me in the moment. After a while between that and some candid, honest (although sometimes awkward) communication, I started to trust that it really was just a fantasy of his to see me with another guy. Then it became easier and more of a turn-on for me, and I started to participate in the "dirty talk" too which I could tell really got him going. The part where you said he pushes it on you every day sounds scary to me though. My opinion is this: its not something you should do just because he won't stop pestering you about it. Talk to him, even if it gets awkward at times (if you're like me, this was something that wasn't easy to talk about in the beginning), and be honest about how you feel about it and get him to do the same. If it's not something you are interested in, tell him that. I wouldn't think that constantly "pushing it on you" would be healthy if its not something you would like to do. Are you in the right place? Reading on this site has helped me a lot. This exact fantasy is much more common than I ever imagined, which is kind of a relief to me since I thought he was crazy at first lol. So that made me feel better. But if you aren't into it, there are plenty of people here with good advice. Listen to them when they say don't do anything YOU don't want to do!