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MrSaxon

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About MrSaxon

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  • Birthday 07/14/1981

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    MF married couple
  • Location
    Alberta, Canada
  • Occupation
    Construction/Education
  • Swinging Experience
    Less than a year
  • Anniversary
    07/11/2006

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  • Favorite Club(s)
    4play, Intimate Times

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  1. My wife and I were just kids (20 and 18) and I had to move back in with my mother to float her rent due to a really ugly divorce. Fun times. So my wife and I had the basement and we had a door to “our” room an I laid her on her back and me on my side and started fucking the everloving hell out of her. I wear glasses and tend to remove them during sex, so I couldn’t see and was rather caught up in the moment. My mom came through our door and locked eyes with my then girlfriend and now wife and my wife said she maintained eye contact for a solid 30 seconds before shutting the door and leaving. Me, being blind and oblivious, continued pounding away and my wife for the whole time. We move out 2 days later and t took my wife 5 years to be able to sit down and talk with my mom again ?
  2. Despite having three children, my wife embarked on a quest of redifinement about a year ago. Coincidentally when we joined the LS. She started a new physical hobby, gained a LOT of confidence, and lost approximately 60 pounds. Her belly isn’t her proudest achievement, but she is no longer ashamed of it because she has literally worked her ass off. While I would never “tell” somebody to do something; in our mid-life stage of the game both of us rediscovering our bodies in a sexual as well as a physical sense has made a world of difference in our sex lives and relationship as a whole. Maybe find something to redefine yourself?
  3. Our second time at a club we ran into one of my old apprentices; she was there with her flavor of the month toy and it was a little strange. No play; the dynamic was weird. That being said with our somewhat straight laced and intolerant metro community it was nice to see a familiar face.
  4. Pros and cons to the vacation thing, as anonymous is both. You don’t know a random dude that you think you’re picking up, so you don’t know what kind of baggage he might bring. Positive is you’ll never have to see him again if it’s weird, but you’ll have to see each other so make sure you communicate first.
  5. Consent is a very sticky situation. I’ve known teenagers who are more mature than most adults, but I’ve also met teenagers that shouldn’t be allowed out of the house. I always and forever think back to one of my old bosses, who was a 43 year old man. He had a 12 year old daughter, and “popped” a 15 year old employee of his. It disgusted me to the point I left the place; but 15 years later they’re actually now married. He’s 56 and she’s 31, but that’s that. What happened in the past sometimes should stay in the past, with alterations to actions and methods for the future. 500 years ago 9 and 10 year old girls got married off and raped by their husbands.... at least we’re not there!
  6. Just remember that’s the key to the whole concept - having fun! Don’t do anything you aren’t comfortable with, don’t let creepers pressure you, and keep open communication about both your wants. Have a good time!
  7. In my industry (construction) with drug and alcohol tests being the norm, I personally am very against it. I find it rather abhorrent, hate the smell, hate the dumb, hate the culture. That being said, my wife has recently starting enjoying her special vaper machine and she gets rather horny when she’s stoned. I tend to find it kind of gross no matter the scenario, but she loves it and it sort of accentuates some our our LS activities. She gets ripped and rarin’ To go; and I’m always ready anyways so sometimes she does her little thing and we go seperate ways. With the legalization of it, it’s going to be much more prevelant in the future and that isn’t a bad thing. Everybody has their poison of choice, and maybe a tag of “420 acceptable” might be more your speed?
  8. Can’t speak for down south in the states, but the two clubs up by where I live both cater to different ages. That being said, there’s always exceptions. Even the “young club” averages 30+ for dudes and 25+ for ladies.
  9. As a husband of 16 years and a father of 3, I can definitely say that sometimes the physical changes can be alarming, but never unwelcome. We all are on a journey with the same end; and how you get there affects the vessel. My wife has always and forever been my best friend; but there have been periods where the physical has waned for whatever reasons (3 kids, 9 miscarriages will wreak havoc on a woman's body). That being said, my affection, love and attraction to her has also never been solely physical. As we all get older, needs do change and sometimes the "taut tummy tight package" 20 year olds simply get exhausting. Have you ever tried TALKING to somebody in their early 20s? IT'S TERRIBLE!! that being said, my wife is who I choose to be with and who I choose to express the vast majority of physicality with. Because she IS the mother of my children, she IS the woman I married, and she DOESN'T have a taut tummy anymore. Which is 400% ok.
  10. Excellent article - I read it and showed it to my wife and we both thought it was fairly accurate.
  11. Also depends on how it's sold. The most expensive lingerie in the world won't cover up discomfort; and a cheeseball Walmart bra can be sexy if a lady is working it.
  12. Curves, skinny, shapely or thick - the main thing that I personally find attractive is confidence and happiness. If a person does not feel comfortable in their own skin, it'll be very obvious in where and how they present their body. If you work hard, and take pride in your own body, then your partner(s) will notice and appreciate it. My wife is a little bit thicker, but she works her ass off and has lost close to 30 pounds over the past 4 months. While I don't love her any more or any less, her own concern about the potential health risks and general appearance has made a very large difference in how I approach her. I have always maintained a fairly healthy lifestyle and take pride in being "in shape," and having a partner who does the same can only do one thing: be awesome. That being said; remember that we in the lifestyle are more akin to a smorgasbord than a sandwich shop - were all about different flavors and textures rather than one type forever. Much like how women might prefer different types of gentlemen depending on many circumstances, guys prefer different gals depending on what they want. I go through phases where at times I'm all about boobs, or legs, or certain positions that are facilitated by a certain shaped partner. Then two weeks later my preferences change again, which is one of the reasons we joined the lifestyle. Hopefully we're never bored! At the end of the day, be comfortable with yourself and take pride in the accomplishments you have had: a woman who has had 12 kids and a good shape is in my mind more impressive than a 20 year old with a washboard stomach - you can tell who really wants it and who was just lucky!
  13. So the wife and I aren't getting any younger, so we have to start with the physicals every year for real now. i have a history of cancer in my family, so I get to do the whole prostate exam. I don't have any hang ups about that, nor does she have any hang ups about Pap smears and mammograms. What we are curious about, though - do you tell your doctor you're a Lifestyler? Do they judge? Do you think a male or female doctor would be more accepting?
  14. I've heard it qualified that "physical relations" can be sorted into three categories: making love, having sex, and FUCKING. We in the lifestyle might be able to add a fourth, recreational, but where the first three are all linked fairly directly to emontional the fourth tends to avoid messy emotional attachment for obvious reasons. While each individual might have their own preference as to their specific flavor, "hard and fast" tends to gravitate towards fucking or recreational sex because those two subcategories tend to be more selfish styles of physicality simply due to the goals: even gentlemen who swing or participate in LS choices can be construed as "selfish" because getting a partner off sometimes can be the most selfish thing you can do. I personally love getting a woman off for the sense of accomplishment and have had skewed ratios nearly all my life. If my partner or partners has 4 to my one I'm a happy camper. Stylisitically, it makes sense to have familiarity and capability in all four fashions; especially in our lifestyle. That being said; physical limitations, emotional limitations, synchronicity, personality, and simple preferences will affect everything. I've had the absolute best time with partners that upon first inspection would be absolutely no fun at all, and then I've had the deadest fucks ever out of the stereotypical "hot girls" who simply lie there. Had one lady friend in my younger years who (thankfully only a couple of times because I ended it due to the oddity of it) who make neither eye contact nor let me "look at her" because she was embarassed of the faces that she made. Wasn't a good time. Have fun, experiment, and most importantly communicate with perspective partners. Chemistry leads the pack - good luck and good swinging!
  15. So the wife and I are somewhat new to the scene; but are coming up on our 11th wedding anniversary and the concept of an "adults only" resort was broached. Couple fast questions for those who can answer them... October in Mexico seems reasonable, but we're pasty Canadians and nude sunbathing scares me. Is there shade and sufficient cover to hide around the pool and at the beach? How friendly are the staff? Are gratuities expected on the all inclusive and if so, what percentage? How forgiving is the clientele on new people? As I said, were fairly new and ogling is our main past time now. Thanks a bunch!
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