Joined this site so I could get some insight from other guys and couples.
My wife and I "got our feet wet" in this lifestyle about 15 years ago. We had lots of fun with a couple male friends, lots of teasing, pictures, etc. We were able to get some good chemistry there for a while as well. My one and only hang-up has always been that it's always been about her. Always a guy who's interested (and the one female in the far reaches would still be all about my wife)
I mean, nobody would say either of us are bad looking. I've always been more the oblivious type though and the few and far between friends I have are either not of the female variety or not of the same mindset. This doesn't mean I don't want the situation to ever happen, but I'm at a loss as to how it ever will.
Also, finding a woman that has that chemistry just doesn't seem possible. I don't want a relationship, not like that anyhow. My wife doesn't either. It just seems that that is always a risk and I don't think either of us can figure out how to test out potential friends for their thoughts on it... without restraining orders being filed afterwards at least!
Guys, on the other hand, are almost always much too willing. That's an entirely different story though!
So what experiences, thought, advice etc. do any of you have for a relatively anti-social, oblivious geek and his equally geeky wife in finding another female willing to participate in some friendly get-togethers??