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  1. Thank you all for the feedback. We are planning on going to our first local swinger event this September, which seems like an eternity away. The hotel where they have it at though is sketchy and is kind of in a ghetto area, so we are both curious what kind of train wreck that might be. For the SLS site, we are on there, but have encountered nothing but flakes thus far.
  2. Any tips on how you approach a guy at a club/bar and let him know that your wife finds him attractive and would like to get to know him better? My wife and I are both want to bring another guy into the bedroom, but feel awkward about how to approach it without looking like total weirdos.
  3. My wife and I were interested in attending our very first swinger event a few hours away from us. However... she is so hung up that the average age at this event is around 40. Are we at a disadvantage for finding people closer to our age, which is late 20s?
  4. My wife and I who are new at this have just learned to say "no thank you" and leave it at that. Most people don't handle rejection well and can't understand the fact that attractiveness is subjective. The best response I received back was, "you're probably just worried that I can fuck you're wife better than you". Well... the whole point of this is for you to fuck her brains out and make her feel amazing. We would both feel disappointed if you didn't rock her world.
  5. Even though I have never been, I know 99.9% of them are not like that from just listening to other people's experiences. Unfortunately, my wife has this image in her mind that I think most people share.
  6. For real... I give credit to the couples that are successfully swinging and exploring their kinkier sides. This stuff is not easy to get started. So many variables and potential obstacles in the way.
  7. I know what you're saying about the friends. There is definitely a risk of ruining the friendship and risk having this information getting out to our other friends. Just from how long we have known this couple, I don't see the friendship going up in flames with a no-swap foursome, let alone just bringing up the conversation. I recently mentioned a swinger's club to my wife. Just going to one without any expectations to see what it is like, because neither of us have been to one or know anyone that has openly admitted to attending one. She has this image in her head that all swinger clubs are just one large room orgies going on, so she wasn't a fan of that idea (yet). It also sucks that we don't have any swinger clubs/events close to our area, so we would need to drive 3-4 hours to attend one.
  8. I definitely don't want to pressure them into doing this. I feel like my wife is avoiding the conversation with them, due to it being awkward and she is probably worried that they will judge our kinky side. If we were to have this conversation with them, she says that there is no way she can do it sober. If anything, I feel that this is a conversation that should be had sober, because then you will say how you truly feel about the idea. Like I had mentioned before, we are really close to this couple and know almost everything about each other. We have gone skinny dipping with each other, played stripping games, and even play games with sexual topics (what's you fav. sex position, how many ppl have you been with, what turns you on, etc.). I know the other guy is sexually attracted to my wife and even jokingly brought up a partner swap before when him and his wife were drunk. Unfortunately, I wasn't around for this conversation, but my wife shot it down immediately saying I wouldn't be interested. Just throwing that backstory in, because my wife is also using the excuse that this is something we have already talked about with them and that they already know we want to do this.
  9. I 100% agree with you. My wife wants this to happen so badly, but she is embarrassed to actually bring it up to them. If she is embarrassed to even get the conversation started, then how does she expect to have sex in front of them? Just going to tell her that if she wants this to happen, we all need to talk about it together. Other opinions/advice are welcomed as well.
  10. Need some thoughts and opinions on this. My wife and I are interested in a foursome with another couple that we are friends with (no swapping), just both couples having sex in the same room and/or bed. From reading numerous forums, we are already aware that taking the friends path can be a risky and ruin friendships. So what's the best way to approach this situation? 1. Talk to the guy first, just so he could talk to his wife and everyone could be on the same page. 2. Play a stripping game/adult game with them and then just sexual start kissing my wife and grabbing her chest, hoping they will be turned on and go from there. 3. Other Just asking, because my wife wants to go with option #2, which I think is a terrible idea. I would go with option #1, because I'm 99.9% sure the guy would be down for it, due to previous things he has said before. His wife on the other hand, is harder to read. If this backfired, I feel option #2 would be harder to come back from than option #1. Another problem with option #2, is that we are going into this and the other couple has no clue what the boundaries are. We know this other couple very well and have gotten naked in front of each other before and even gone skinny dipping a handful of times.
  11. My wife and I have recently started exploring swinger sites for the first time and we are both surprised at how many people just openly put a face pic on their profile or have no problem emailing a face pic. With that being said, we aren't too keen on doing this. The reason I am bringing this up, is because we posted on Craigslist just to see what types of weird responses we would get, in which we were not disappointed. However... One gentleman sent us a face pic without us asking and of course... It was someone we recognized. The problem is that we live in a city that is a decent size, but everyone seems to be connected in some damn way. We could probably go to a random party and know a few people there or people will know us through their friends. We're slightly paranoid that we are going to send our face pics to a stranger and that it actually turns out to be someone that we know. It's not like we are politicians and are trying to avoid a scandal, but this is something that would be embarrassing to explain to our families or co-workers if word ever got out. So I was thinking... When we do send a pic through messages/emails, would it be wise to just use a pic from Facebook that anyone could have access to? That way we could always just claim that it isn't us and someone stole our pic off our profile. This may sound ridiculous to some, but it is honestly a concern to us.
  12. The ironic part is that my friends would suck a dick for X amount of dollars, but I'm the gay one for wanting to rock my wife's world. By the way... I'm in my late 20s just in case you were wondering about how old my friends are.
  13. Sorry... Not trying to make a blanket statement here, but why do most people automatically think a guy is gay or bi-curious, just because he wants to have a MFM with his wife? Or that he doesn't love his wife, because no man that loves his wife would ever let another man fuck her... This is something that I have encountered with my friends as well as ppl on other forums. I had a situation happen the other day with another couple my wife and I hang out with often. We were playing a game and the topic of would you rather have a threesome with another female or another guy? My wife is the only person who knows that I want to have a MFM, so she knows not to say anything to other people about it. It's not something I'm ashamed about, but I don't feel like explaining myself to another dude who is going to think I'm gay/bi no matter how strong my case is. Anyway... the other guy chimes in right away saying "that's a stupid question... obviously me and (insert name) would want another girl. Only gay guys would want a male." I just laughed about it, but it honestly agitated me a little bit. Now I know what you're thinking... you need to get better friends. They are actually good guys though, just really ignorant when it comes to stuff like this. The funny part is that if some of my guy friends knew this about me, I'm pretty sure most of them would be down for fucking my wife. Once they can get over their homophobe tendencies.
  14. I'm in a similar situation as you when it comes to my wife. We fantasize about a Mfm/mff experience during sex, but she is on the fence about actually doing it. We talked about starting out just having sex in the same room with another couple (no swap) and see how we both feel after that. I 100% want to do mfm and it is something that I suggested first, but she has mixed feelings about it.
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