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dan63 last won the day on August 9 2017

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    Married male
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    Jonesboro, Arkansas
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    DannCheryl91
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    Genesis

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  1. When possible we usually try to have dinner a couple hours before the party/club. Many times we try to go a step farther and invite one of the other couples that are going to be at the party/club to join us for dinner. Many times these are couples that we might already know from previous parties but this gives a nice opportunity to get to know them better.
  2. Just watched "Palm Swings" on Showtime. It is a very accurate portrayal of a new couple first getting into the lifestyle and what happens when rules are not laid out from the beginning and love/trust/communication are not established from the beginning. Some of the acting is somewhat cheesy but the story line is excellent. It is a very accurate portrayal of how drama can occur in the LS, but it does have a happy ending. Showtime is currently having a free weekend preview on DirectTV at least and I figure the other providers have it as well. I highly recommend that you DVR this movie while it is available and then watch at your convenience.
  3. I call this "closing the deal" and we suck at it too. We are definitely not wall flowers and we are pretty much in the middle of things, and we mingle and mix with different couples/people during the party and even sometimes do some making out. But we (wife and I) suck when it comes to popping the question of, "Would you like to go play?" I think it is really all about a fear of failure. This is not to say that we never get to play, but I really believe we have missed many opportunities because we didn't have the nerve to ask the question. We are working on this. One thing I have definitely learned in the LS is that success builds confidence.
  4. We love the ladies in men's shirts theme also. Another favorite is black light parties.
  5. Actually the most distinctive odor was from the Koreans. If I had to guess I would say this was from Kimchee (fermented cabbage) and other similar foods.
  6. In the LS, I have been fortunate to never be with a woman that had any kind of disagreeable smell down there. Little bit different stories in my single days, I did come across a couple that kinda made me cut the licking short. Of course diet can have a huge effect on the smell also. I found when I was in the navy that Asian women sometimes had an odor somewhat distinctive to what they ate. Not necessarily bad, but definitely different.
  7. You know, many times I have been accused of over-thinking things, but I think you have me beat. I personally have a little bit smaller than average cock. Fortunately my wife has a very nice tight pussy (Other playmates have told me this and I agree). Since we have been in the LS she has had the opportunity of be with a few men who were definitely MUCH larger than average. I will say that when I have gone immediately after these men, yes there is some looseness, but really no more so than after her and I have had a nice long session together. As far as any long term lasting effect, absolutely NONE!! She has had two children, both of whom were C-section and she believes this definitely contributes to her continued tightness even at 52 years old.
  8. The trials and tribulations of the early days of the LS. I will refer you to two words that are at the core of successful couples swinging. TRUST AND COMMUNICATION. If I remember correctly, both of you are in the very early days of experiencing the LS. This is actually very common, and most couples, us included, went through some version of what you are experiencing. It doesn't sound like your husband is intentionally hiding anything, and most likely it doesn't mean near as much to him as it does you. And please don't try to trap him into a lie. Just come out and tell him that you noticed he was still chatting with her (in a non-judgmental way) and explain that you thought as a couple you had decided not to play with them. You are fairly new to the LS and it sounds like you have had fun to this point, no need letting something like this become a huge roadblock for you. I also believe that if you stay in the LS, in 6 months something like this would be a complete non-issue for you. By that time, hopefully, you will have built the trust to the point that you are confident he would never leave you for someone else and your communication will be to the point that either 1) he will know that you would rather he not talk to her or 2) he is upfront and just tells you about his communication with her out of a matter of routine.
  9. You are fine Wall2705. You are right there with the rest of us, and feeling the exact same apprehensions I felt going in. Once you get into the LS I guarantee you that you will see some monsters, they are out there, but the vast majority of the men you see will be our size if not smaller. Also, in my experience, the couple/lady have committed pretty much to have sex with you before they ever see your cock. Now when you get down to the point of getting it out, they are probably going to pause a moment or two to take a look at it. Don't fret, while they may casually notice the size, the main thing they are looking for are medical issues (signs of STDs), and as long as you don't have a bunch of warts or something on your member it will be in her mouth before you know it, then your off to the races.
  10. Hang in there buddy. We have been in the LS since February of this year. It started very slow, but it is ok. Our experiences have grown as our maturity in the LS has grown. If I had to guess I would say your lack of success can at least be partially attributed to the tension people can see/feel between you and your wife. Drama is the enemy of the LS and the ladies/couples you are meeting can tell/feel that as a couple you are not ready for play and thus they avoid that potential for drama. You mention that you have not gotten to play with anyone else, how about your wife? Does she have any interest at all in playing or is she strictly looking for the "soft swap" experience and maybe play with the other ladies? I'm afraid until you get complete buy in from your wife you will continue to struggle. I don't mean this to be a hit on your wife at all, this is as much on you as her. Until she can feel confident in her heart of hearts that you will not be leaving her because you have played with someone else she will continue to struggle with it. BTW, looking like Quasimodo would really have very little to do with it. Since we have been in the LS we have seen all kinds of people successfully playing on a regular basis, and they come in absolutely all shapes and sizes.
  11. Would agree with GoldCocouple, especially being open to the idea of a full mfmf swap. Better yet just be open to whatever comes your way.
  12. My wife an I started with about 5 visits to a local club before we were invited to a house party. And this was probably for the best. Generally agree with everything said so far. Clubs are much noisier and harder to really get to know someone, make sure you schedule your visit on a night that is going to be fairly busy. For instance, our local club has SLS nights on the 3rd Saturday of the month. It is packed on those nights, other nights it is a real crap shoot. I personally much prefer house parties now. You rally can get to know someone first if that is what you are interested in (not everyone is). House parties are generally more laid back. Like a regular back yard barbque until later in the night and then only in the play areas.
  13. I would say my wife and I both had these concerns when we were first entering the LS. She was concerned about her weight, I was concerned about my weight and penis size. Well, all it took was a visit or two to the local club to find out that we were absolutely average in the LS in the looks dept. People and penises both come in all different sizes in the LS. Some bigger some smaller, but mainly, we did "fit in" and I would expect this to be your experience also.
  14. Sounds like you are well on your way. I can assure you that there are many many men on this forum somewhat Jealous of you and the relationship you have with your wife. Great job and keep up the communication.
  15. The house party we attend has a couple of hired security people that the couple knows. They are more like motorcycle types than Barney Fife, but they are there just to make sure nothing gets out of hand. Only thing I have ever really seen them do is escourt out a couple that got Methed up after they arrived at the party. No room for that shit..
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