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220Somethings

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About 220Somethings

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    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 07/25/1988

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  • Relationship Status
    M\F Married Couple
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    Phoenix, Arizona
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    xx/xx/xxxx
  1. So the last and first time I had a threesome with my wife, I ended up getting smacked upside the head with a guitar. There were no negotiations, it was spur of the moment thing with her friend that I had a past flight with before we were together. We had drank a lot, A LOT, got 420, cabbed it back to our place (the kids were at grandma's) and before I could blink my eyes we were all over each other and it was going fantastically... So I thought. I'm kind of hazy on the details, but my wife felt as though I was favoring the 3rd over her, and perhaps I was I couldn't tell you. At one point, the third turned to me and grabbed my dick and said she wanted to see me inside her (my wife). Now, I remember in my idiotic drunken head thinking I was engaging in some lame ass cryptic dirty talk but for some reason out of my mouth came "Thanks for reminding me". Then all hell broke loose. The rest is all drama, I ended up taking the third home and my wife ended up coming back but I was sure I was fucked. Now, she had brought up that she is bicurious, tried to pull me into multiple three ways (which I resisted), and had been expressing in the weeks leading up to New Years Eve that she was interested in being more Freaky in the bedroom. So I asked her if she ever considered polyamory, she asked why it was cool that I had another pussy but she couldn't have another dick. And at first my macho pride flared up, and for a few weeks we avoided the topic and returned to our usual sexual activities, and I thought about her question and it fucked with me. We both have sexual desires and why is it cool (or had it been cool my entire sexual history) to claim my fantasies a priority while hers are simply being ignored? If we loved eachother we would be clawing over one another to put our lover's pleasure and satisfaction before our own, right? So we talked again, had a couple drinks, revealed our kinky and dark sides to one another, and we both settled on a threesome with a girl again (but one who we did not know, or a couple that we both felt comfortable with - whichever came first. And we met a couple we both liked enough on a dating app And we set up guideline's. -Equal attention at all times -any women involved had to be at the very least bisexual -No contact with sexual partners following a tryst without the express permission of the other -One Time, One Night only unless we both agree to double back -No kissing -No creampies -Meet First, No first date fucks -No right to be jealous if the rules are observed So, in summary, my questions concerning rules, swinging, and foursomes are as follows: What rules would you add? WWhich would you take away? How are foursomes initiated respectfully? Who starts on who first? Are you supposed to match the pace at which she is being pleasured, or move to the beat of your own drum? What happens if he cums first? Does he just watch me fuck his wife until I'm done? Is it less awkward (my experience being solely in anonymous, unattached group sex) to have sex with a large group than couple on couple? The couple says they usually like to "date" other couples if they like them, what does that entail? Should we keep couples we like around, or keep it one time and anonymous? Any big do's and don'ts? Any advice on our past shared experience and how it may or may not effect this one? Should I take it easy on my new partner out of respect to wife, or give her the full treatment? What if her husband is bi and I'm not, am I obliged to give him a reach around or blow him? Afterwards, is it awkward? What's a good way to break the post-cum tension? Some of these questions may seem asinine, and the list isn't even complete. Lol. I've been serious with three women in my life, and two of them had only slept with me until we broke up and were in no way sexually adventurous - leading me to exercise my kink outside the monogamous space. So being in love with a woman who matches my inner freak toe to tip and loves it is exhilarating and absolutely unknown at the same time. I appreciate any advice you take the time to give, maybe I'm putting too much thought into it. Haha.
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