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Hi! I meant that he wants an ongoing thing with this couple and I'm not really sure how long I would want to continue with them. I thought that maybe if it is less frequent, I could be more into it. I do want to continue to try to find couples who are a good fit. The other thing I thought about is that there prob is no way that everyone will be equally into one another. So I was wondering if it's more of a give and take. Like maybe I'm not really into the guy in this couple as much as my boyfriend is into the woman but maybe I will be more into the guy in the next couple than my boyfriend will be into the woman and so on.

I really like that! The only problem is that my bf is getting super frustrated because I'm picky in general. So it's hard enough to find a couple where I'm into the guy. Then throw into it that we found one where I was sort of attracted to him and then the sex wasn't great and I'm back to square one. My bf is so frustrated, he's saying he doesn't think we shoudl be doing this at all. I disagree and just think that it's a matter of finding the right fit. Just causing a lot of drama right now.

This probably sounds like a pretty obvious question, the answer being that you don't move forward but for me it's a little more complicated. My bf and I have been doing swinging stuff off and on for three years now and in that time, we've had maybe 6 experiences with other couples. In each experience, I've never had a problem getting into it or getting off but my boyfriend hasn't been able to get hard each time. As you can imagine, this has been very frustrating for him. He says he needs to have a connection with the woman and feel comfortable in order to get hard and cum. Recently we met a couple where he is comfortable with the woman and was able to cum with her for the first time ever. Understandably, he is excited and eager to see them again. I, on the other hand, am not attracted to the guy. I'm wondering if I should just suck it up and continue since my bf has had such a problem in the past? He really wants this to be an ongoing thing which also concerns me because I'm not sure how long I will want to continue. Have any of you been in this situation or do you have advice? Thank you!

So the title of this thread isn't exactly what this post is about but it sort of is. Here's the situation: my boyfriend and I met a couple who we both really like as people. They are super fun, funny, easy to be around etc. The first time I met him, I was attracted to him. Second time, not so much and then I was sort of in this weird place where I didn't know if I was into him or not. Long story short, I decided to give it a go and we had sex. THe first time we had sex with the couple, we were in different rooms. It went fine except the sex wasn't exactly what I had hoped it was. There were a few things about him that turned me off. My bf had problems getting it up with the other girl but once he heard me moaning, he was able to have sex with her for about 5 mins before he came. Here's where the issue is. I'm not really all that attracted to the other guy. I got turned off during sex and physically, I'm just not really into him although I love his personality. If I were single, I wouldn't want to have sex with him again. Now, having said that, one thing I should mention is that one of the biggest turnons for me in this is watching my bf with another woman. So I'm trying to decide if me not really being all that interested in having sex with the other guy should matter that much if my turn on is watching my bf with the other woman (given that we would all be in the same room the next time). My bf is getting frustrated with me because I can't seem to make up my mind about whether I want to do this again with them or what I want because I keep getting caught up by the fact that I'm not really all that sexually interested in the other guy. And my bf also doesnt want to feel like he's leading the other girl on because we do all text separately and she's all about my bf. Also he's feeling like their first time wasn't great on his end and he really wants to make up for it. So long story short, all three of them are gung ho on getting together again and I'm dealing with a lot of guilt because I feel like I'm the one who could blow it for everyone else, not to mention that I really like this couple as friends! So my question is, do you think it's enough to just focus on being turned on by watching your partner, even if you aren't really into the other person you're having sex with? I guess that doesn't really sound fair to the other guy? I'm not sure. I know he's pretty crazy about me so maybe it wouldn't bother him. Of course I would never tell him that! I'm just totally confused as to whether or not I should just go with the flow or call it. Help!