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susieq2

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About susieq2

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    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 05/28/1969

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  1. Thank you all so much for taking the time to respond. Its great to know that there is such caring and supportive folks out there!!! So I am so very nervous about addressing this. I've tried to come up with the most constructive mature way to handle this, that might keep all of our relationships intact. I am over 40 and totally not into drama, so I have to chose my attack... lol... carefully. We all connect so very well. We all are professionals and all deal with people and situations every day. So I'm so unsure why this is so hard for me to deal with. When addressing issues with my husband in the past about my insecurities, jealousy, or concerns he is seems to think that he is always "getting in trouble ". He says its the way I present it. I have tried different ways but he always says the same. The last time I ask him to cut down on the texting he got very defensive and said that he had ( which I've looked on his phone and its only decreased a tiny bit) and that that he and her are very communicative and that they are not like me and the husband and he feels like he should be allowed to have fun without feeling like he is always doing something wrong. And he said that he is not gonna stop texting her that that is just the way he is. I also ask him why did he feel the need to call her all the time and he got defensive and said he doesn't...only when he is driving or is too busy to text. I get that... but what i have seen... that hasn't been deleted has been at least 3-4 x week. I'm planning a lunch date with her tomorrow. I don't want to accuse her because I am certain that she does not know whats going on and she probably thinks I know. How do I bring this up???
  2. We are relatively new to the LS and really have just kind of established rules as we go. But there are certain things/boundaries we have discussed like I have no desire to have daily conversations on the phone, that has been perfectly made clear, and how I don't want an intimate relationship, I just want it to be fun. I have been on the jealous side about some things but they, to me, have been legitimate. For example: I don't like when he calls her pet name's he calls me. Those are names for me. I have asked him not to do so...but he continues thru text. I have openly told him I see no reason that they should talk on the phone... what I'm seeing is at least he's talking to her every other day and when I can catch the history undeleted sometimes every day. Granted its only about 8-10 min at a time.
  3. Thanks for that advice. I have always kept my feelings in check with everyone that we've played with. I think too much for my husband's liking. He wants me to be more connected. I want it to be sex and fun only but he has to have a more emotional connection to play. I've told him I get where he's coming from but that's not what I want out of swinging.
  4. Thats so true. I would never want to embarrass any one.... as all of us are very respectful of each other. It makes it really hard because I'm certain that she doesn't realize that there is anything wrong.He has assured me that he is not in love with her but he must have a connection with a person to swing, which I totally understand...knowing him. But this has been brought up numerous times and I still find that he texts her all thru out the day, and talks to her on the phone most every day ( of course when he's not w/me).
  5. Very good advice . Thank you so much for the input and taking time out of your day to respond. ???
  6. I wanted to make the question as short as possible so you wouldn't become bored by the first few sentences. There are so many details I could add. I want to give him credit where credit is due. He has respected some of my concerns. And I'm thankful for what he has done. But like calling her on the phone and decresing his level of "attachment " has not inproved. Its only gotten more. In the past, I agreed sometime ago, that it was ok for them to talk on the phone if it was not safe to drive while texting or if its something like with plans that are too long to text. But I never agreed for them to talk on a regular basis on the phone. ( He deletes his call history). I know her very well and she would never do anything to disrespect me. I'm certain she has no idea that I do not approve of the phone calls.
  7. Looking for advice. We swing with one other couple exclusively which we have become very close friends with. My husband is too attached to the wife. I have asked him repeatedly to tone it down and to keep his feelings in check, and this is not the relationship I want and not what I signed up for when we started swinging.. but nothing has changed. He seems think there is nothing wrong with what he is doing. This is about to destroy me and my feelings for him and my marriage. I love the other couple dearly and they feel the same for us. I dont want to lose their friendship or my husband. I would greatly appreciate advice/input.
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