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  1. Do either of you have rules about "dating" others? My husband and I have best friends R & J. R and I are in a poly relationship. J and my hubby are just dear friends. The 4 of us play from time to time but R and I also "date"-- we go to dinner, to events, have sleepovers. It gives us the alone time we need to reconnect. During these times J sometimes stays home alone or finds a date of her own, sometimes stays with my hubby, sometimes stays with a friend of hers, M. R and I try to text often, but we are busy, so we also talk on the phone. Is that rule you've discussed? It seems like you texting is not the best way to communicate-my hubby sucks at that!-- so you need to find other methods you all feel comfortable with.
  2. I play with a married man regularly. He is part of our group of friends. My husband and I are friends with his wife who knows he is LS but has no interest. It completely works for them. Not ALL married men are cheating. You simply have to know who you are getting in bed with.
  3. Do you know anyone else on the guest list? If not, are their pics or links to the profiles of everyone on the guest list? My husband and I have gone to house parties before where the guest list was "secret". We've had a blast. Would we go to this? It depends on how well we knew the host. And if you get there and it's not your thing, you can always leave.
  4. And this is why we never play with anyone we just met. We need to know who they are, see if anyone we know knows them, check out their social media, etc. Sounds paranoid but we try all we can to avoid this kind of drama.
  5. Yep, Sildenafil. Go to GoodRX.com and see where you can get it cheapest near you. Hubby gets it at Sams for $10 for 30 pills.
  6. My husband and I play separately all of the time, at parties and on dates. I have a BF as well who I have spent the night with. (Yes, his wife knew. We do not condone lying and do not want any part of it) We do not do the club scene nor do we ind people online. The couples we meet we meet at parties, meet and greets, and through friends. We get to know people before playing as well as finding out who they know and "vetting" them a bit before playing. I am sure they probably do the same with us. My husband has no problem finding partners and plays a lot more than I do.
  7. Hi, all. I am coming back to tell you about something that happened this weekend... Last week a very favorite play partner of mine and his wife (my hubby's favorite partner) hosted a party. He told me upfront that there would be no playtime between us at the party but that he would come for me the next morning. I was not happy about these "instructions" but wasn't certain if he was serious or this was some sort of power game. As for the "no play at the party", I assumed he was keeping his opportunities open for the evening. I wasn't happy about that either (Yes, I was jealous-- he IS my favorite) but I understand we are not exclusive. His wife informed my hubby that in fact, he had his sights set on a definite someone coming to the party and she was lamenting that she may have to "take one for the team" as she was not into the woman's BF. The night of the party, they invited us over a few hours early. Our assumption was a "pre-party"...that never happened. There was kissing, touching, all sorts of indications of desire...but ....nothing. So...guests start to arrive and from the minute it all begins, my play partner suddenly stops speaking to me. He flat out ignores me. No pat on the butt, no touch of the hand, no smile across the room. It is as if he does not know me. -----Let me stop and say right now, this man and I are like magnets. Every time we are together, we are glued to each other. Our friends all see it, they all know it. So for us to not play together was strange enough but for him to ignore me was too much. This behavior was bizarre to say the least...and set of a wave of whispering. Now..the evening progressed, my play partner, his wife, the woman he was interested in and her BF head off to a room. Time passes and they all reappear. I am being social, chatting, flirting. I am enjoying myself. I see him exit the room and he ignores me-- again. Later in the evening, people are beginning to leave and he goes to start cleaning up. Cleaning up at the end of a party is kind of "our thing" so I go to help. He speaks to me only as much as needed. We finish and hubby and I head to bed ( we were staying over). He offers us clean sheets for the bed and says good night. (still acting rather...cold...) The next morning, the wife walks into our room and crawls in bed with us. (she and hubby had not played the night before either) Next thing I know, in walks my play partner, grabs me by the hand, and without a word, marches me back to his room, acting as if everything is perfectly normal between us. I was in a bit of a fog that day but as my mind cleared, I began to get angry. I felt..used? Manipulated? Come to find out (from his wife) that nothing happened between my play partner and this woman he wanted so badly. He couldn't get hard. (nor could the BF) And here is where I felt...satisfied? Vindicated? Because that has NEVER been a problem between us. I can get him hard by smiling at him. So here I am, still in this strange relationship with this man that I am at a complete loss to understand.
  8. We have friends in the LS whose children suspect what is going on. They have been confronted and rather than tell them their private lives are private and not their concern, with an additional dose of reassurance that they are in love and their marriage is strong, they have decided to tell them they are indeed in the LS. Their reasoning was that their kids suffer from anxiety and not knowing would make it worse. I could not disagree more. Now every time their children know they are out somewhere or with someone....every time any of us post a picture on FB or comments, even an innocent vanilla post like "I love your new haircut", their kids ask--"Is that someone you're having sex with?" This also exposes many of us who are their friends to their kids outing US to OUR kids by their potential comments online and in person... I personally feel and have always felt that all my children need to know about my life is that I am their parent, I am there for them and always will be, and I love them. What I do is MY BUSINESS. How do you feel about your children (or other family, for that matter) knowing you are in the LS?
  9. No, it does not happen to me a lot. This is really the first time I have had it happen. I understand completely it is irrational and remind myself every time I see him why we are in this LS. I don't believe I feel the other girls are more pretty. I just really enjoy being with him. I think he reminds me the most of my husband,as far as play partners go-- height, coloring, size, technique...but yet, he is not my husband. (now there is some twisted psychological stuff, huh?) I think of him probably daily but then we text nearly every day. Not ALL day but a quick check in every day. Sometimes with sexy pics, sometimes just hi. Once in a while, I wonder if he is texting the same thing to several women (same pics, same lines)....or if he just texting me. No, he is not single. He has been married for 25 years. His wife is a favorite of my hubby's. No, I do not think a poly situation would be possible nor warranted. I'm not really sure what it is about this man that makes me jealous. As I said, I do realize it is irrational. I understand the nature of swinging and why we do what we do. I'm just at the point in our relationship (this is fairly new) that I want to still be kind of "special" to him and when I know he has been out on a date with another or has hooked up with someone at a party I was not at, I feel a pang of jealousy that it was not me. I am sure this is just the "puppy love" stage of lust and I will get over it soon enough. Hubby says I just need to go fuck more men. LOL He's probably right.
  10. Thank you for the support. I have a fairly new "favorite" partner who I am in lust with and it has been strangely difficult for me to come to terms with his interest in others. He is very discreet about his other "dates" but we are involved in a rather small community of people so I do tend to find out now and again what's going on and I have been shocked to find how jealous I am. Plus I have found myself lacking any interest in meeting new people, which I believe is exactly the wrong thing to do. Hubby is aware of my feelings and has been understanding and supportive and we are trying to expand our circle of friends so that I switch my focus off of my "favorite". I just never expected to react this way. I really thought I could maintain emotionless sex and this has thrown me a curve ball...
  11. I don't know if any of this will help but I thought I would post anyway. My hubby has had very little trouble getting his mojo on. If the girl is attractive, in good shape, and has a good personality, he is pretty much good to go. More than once. But my favorite play partner is VERY picky about who he plays with. For him, it has to be a very deep mental as well as physical attraction. While hubby is over there ripping off clothes, my partner is doing this sensual "dance" of sorts with me, warming things up. Everyone figures out what works for them...in time. You just need to find what works for you.
  12. Has anyone else been jealous of their play partners other partners? I can watch hubby with another woman and not feel a pang of jealousy. But I have specific play partners that when I see them with others, I get jealous! Is this crazy or what? Has anyone else felt this way? Hubby says he has had the same reaction with a few of his female "favorites"...
  13. I have been on bio-identical hormone replacement for over 3 years. I am a COMPLETELY different person. My mind wanted sex but I had no "drive". The pellets made all the difference. FWIW, hubby goes weekly for his testosterone shot. We are in our early 50's and have sex almost daily.
  14. You need a script. Are there any doctors in your area that work with low testosterone? My hubby goes to a "low T center" every week for his testosterone shot and that doctor is who gave him the script.
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