My girlfriend and I have gone to a few swingers' clubs and are wondering: after meeting a person or couple at a club, what's a fast and discreet way for me and her to communicate about whether we're both into playing with them? So far we've just stepped aside and briefly talked about it, but that felt a little awkward and might not work as well if the environment is more playful or faster paced.
I've thought about using a code word or some kind of subtle gesture we could use to indicate to each other whether we're into playing with them (or not into it . What do you do? Have you tried things that worked better or didn't work so well?
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Edit: just found an old thread about this issue titled "communicate" from 2003.
But I'd still like to hear anyone else's thoughts if you have them.
