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Thanks a lot CostaRica, actually reading others experiences could be an interesting alternative. About the answer if someone could do something with her, it would be good to know the answer, but actually if it really happens I will tell the person to ask directly her, since she will always have the final word.

Thanks a lot JandKinBoise!! Actually you are completely right. I've been having this 'kinky' mind for many years so far, and this is something completely new for her. Even if we have been together for 3 years, it is not enough for her to understand what exactly does she want. I will keep studying and keep talking openly about the theme. The more I study the more I get convinced that I am a non-monogamous person, and I just have to find a way to accommodate the things and make them work for us. Well, what I specifically don't know right now is if I should invite her again to go to swing clubs, or if I should completely stop inviting her for doing these things. My fear is if I don't, the things will just stop where they are and we will not try anything else again. Since she is not proposing anything by her own. Anyway, the possibility of talking to someone else about this topic is helping me a lot. Thanks a lot folks.

First of all thanks for your advice!!! About your questions: "Do you always have these talks while in the heat of sex, or are you talking while you're both clothed, relaxed, and focused? Are you sure that Anitta knows that you love and desire her, and want to share this adventure with her rather than replace her? Have you built a foundation of love, trust, and open, honest communication?" After fantasizing only during the sex at the beginning, we started to have these converations in a not sexual context. Laying in the couch, in a pub and so on. Focused. I cannot be 100% sure that she is secure about me not replacing her, but I would totally bet that she is secure about that if I had to. I'm glad to have built from the very beginning of our relationship, a completely honest, trustful and open relationship, we can talk about any topic, really there are no taboo topics for us. I am reading a book from Tristan Taormino, called opening up. It talks about non-monogamy, the experience of many different couples and the common aspects to different kinds of relationships. Ocasionally I show to her some passage on the book. She told me that a possible problem is that she is a little bit afraid with the idea of having sex with other people, so we decided to define clear boundaries, for example, flirting and kissing is ok, sexual touchs with others, sex in swinger clubs only between us and so on. For me doing only this would be amazing, the problem is even after we agreed about doing that, she didn't change her mindset about it. She is not proposing anything, she even refused my invite for going to another swing club last weekend. Well, it seems clear that she is not into it, my doubt is: She definitely doesn't want to share this with me? Or she is only processing all the stuff? Should I ask for a definitive answer, even if it is a NO? This undefined situation is killing me. Anyway, I really appreciate your advices.

Hi, I am Giuseppe, 30, and my wife Anitta is 26. I am here for two reasons, first I wanna do virtual friends with whom I can talk about these things ocasionally. Second I need help for dealing with a situation. I never had a swinger experience (wife swap at least), but I am completely sure I am into the lifestyle, open relationship, swing, threesomes, orgies and etc. My wife knows everything and we always talk about that. We have been married for 3 years, and we have already gone to 2 swingers club (two shit ones in Italy with almost no one in it) and an adult resort, besides some strip clubs. In the resorts we made out with some couples (only kissing and rubbing hands and parts). The problem is, she doesn't try to find anything by her own, and she always try to avoid these new experiences. Even if she saw the positive effect this little transgressive experience produced on us. However she never say no, I don't want to be in thia lifestyle. Actually we are having sex very little between us right know, something like 1 or 2 times a week. I love her with all my heart, but I am a very sexual person and I feel imprisioned inside myself with all my desires unfulfilled. So I need some experienced friends to at least talk about that. Thank you