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cSwing last won the day on October 24 2018

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About cSwing

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  • Birthday 06/30/1990

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    Couple
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    VIRGINIA
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    BUSY
  • Swinging Experience
    2 YEARS WITH A YEAR OFF
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    01/20

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  1. So there we were, two days from our next event and I had not a single nerve or doubt about us. Usually I'd have unnerving anxiety, be fearful of him being with someone better or feeling inadequate.. but it had been well over six months since any playing, and tons had happened in our relationship. To my surprise and happiness, I felt nothing but excitement and longing to find a couple we could swap with at our next event. I WANTED to see him with another woman, I wanted him to have fun and I wanted it for myself as well. I wont go into the details of the evening, but we got just that. I wasnt worried prior to the event, I wasnt worried at the event or felt the need to establish myself as his wife in front of others or during our group (us and two other sexy couples) soft swap. Or even once back at the room. It was free flowing, relaxed, sexy and charged. I remember briefly looking over as my husband fucked the other wife from the back and either it was the sight of him that made me shiver in orgasm, or her husband smacking my ass as he fucked me from behind. The next day (despite not having had our "reclamation sex" yet due to small children) and even into yesterday and today, I cant stop thinking about how sexy my husband Is, how much I love him and I even linger longer on our hugs. It took me quite some time (about 3 years) to really grasp the idea. Not that whole "push through and hope for the best" but really grasp it. There are few things as amazingly sexy and reassuring in this world that you can have whatever little sexy fulfillment your heart desires WITH YOUR SPOUSE without repercussion, punishment or resentment, rather encouragement and praise. AND get to go home with them and bask in the afterglow. When sex is no longer the constraint and "cement" to a relationship, you both reach new heights of love, compassion, compersion, appreciation and respect for not only each other, but for yourself and you begin to realize that when you dont have to hide from that "one person" you can flourish in any situation. Perhaps I'm just now feeling the "honeymoon" effect of the LS but this last event really made it click. Not sure what the reason or rhyme, maybe it was time and experiencing that he still hasn't left me despite swapping. It took time and reassurance and talking even when he and I didnt want too , but here we are, on the other side of the "learning storm". Not entirely because you can always learn something new, but the "societal norm storm" has dissipated and I owe a large part to this board. To those battling the fight, it may not happen tomorrow, or next week or month or year, but the point in case is that patience, understanding and self reflection are key...oh, and obviously COMMUNICATION, LOVE AND TRUST. Cheers to the sexy, life changing adventure. Xoxo
  2. Agreed, I've literally read every single post on this site and often find myself rereading the same thing from years ago. Information that still resets me when I need it.
  3. cSwing

    Odd situation

    You are so right! I should be turned on! That's my man!!!
  4. cSwing

    Odd situation

    I have read both and am still having this issue. Hell, I was even fine putting the condom on him, watching them for a moment and walking away to let them have fun. But the aftermath in my mind is "You shouldn't get turned on by this, that's your husband what ls wrong with you"
  5. cSwing

    Odd situation

    I know most men find it sexy, but not usually for women.
  6. cSwing

    Odd situation

    It's a complex emotion I'm feeling and I cant even quite make sense of it myself.
  7. Recently after several instances of play, I (Mrs.) Have found that I have a fetish for putting a condom on Mr. Swing and putting him inside his play partner. I enjoy watching the penetration and often use the memory for self pleasure. The issue, you may be wondering...is when I sit back and I'm not in a sexually charged environment, I feel extreme guilt and almost ashamed that I enjoy it. I feel that me as a wife should want to be the one enjoying my husband, but here I am getting turned on by the thought and images of him penetrating another woman. He assures me that it's ok, and it's nothing to be embarrassed by and I should love that I can share that with him, but I just feel....vulnerable and ashamed. Why? Any ideas or theories are welcomed because I've tried to make sense of it and I cant seem to come to one happy, common acceptance point of it.
  8. Thank you dear friend. That made me smile xoxo
  9. To be honest, I’m not sure what it would take for me to love my body. I say time, but that’s immeasurable and surgery isnt always the solution. I had breast concerns after nursing my children for 15months total. I researched and went ahead and got a procedure (breast lift and reasonable sized implants) hoping to change my outlook on myself and boost my confidence. I got the breasts I wanted...with the cost of having huge scars under my breasts, up the underside and around my areolas and am now ashamed of the scars. I suppose the grass isn’t always greener and presumed remedies don’t always remedy an unhealthy personal outlook.
  10. Hello All, Firstly, I want to thank you for responding to a post that may seem so narrow minded. I do appreciate everyone’s insight and honesty. I know in my heart that my husbands love stretches far beyond my skin ever has and to shrink his words down are only doing an injustice to myself and my marriage. It is a looooonnnnggg journey to self love. A constant battle that I’m sure doesn’t get conquered in one day. There are days worse than others and some that I feel like I’m the Queen of Sheba. I do notice my “flaws” probably more so than others (good lighting can help me not see it too) but I probably see them a lot differently and more strongly than others as well. There is no denying that it’s there. To say otherwise would be a blatant lie. As with learning to change our mindsets about LS, love separating from sex, and many other life lessons, body appreciation is yet another beast in itself. Time and patience I suppose thank you all again!
  11. What are the real, true thoughts (mostly from men) on the “Mommy tummy” most women have? This can attest to stretch marks, a little loose skin etc. from pregnancies over the years. My husband says he doesn’t notice it much or pay much attention to it. Obviously women will critique ourselves the most and we notice it far more extensively on our own body’s, but for husbands/play partners, in an honest opinion, does it bother you? Do you even notice it all, is it a slight turn off or not at all just something that’s there but not worth a second thought. I just don’t fathom has it cannot NOT be bothersome to those looking at it. I work out daily, am in pretty decent shape (26 inch waist) but that dreaded skin is still there. It drives me nuts, and oh the jiggle it has when I’m on top of my husband trying to enjoy myself...when I feel it begin to move, I immediately focus on that and hiding it. Please don’t say “believe your husband” because despite me knowing he is saying the truth on his stance, he is also blinded by the love he has for me and the fact that it’s my skin that gave him children. However, that does not make it a desirable attribute. It makes it there.
  12. Hi there, Mr. C and I have discussed this and though it has never happened, the idea is ok because it's convenient. Additionally, in the heat of the moment if we were hosting, it would be petty to say, "No, anywhere but there." But to sit and ponder on it, I'd say I don't necessarily get turned on by it. However, it is just a material thing and to place a weighted value on a bed is just about as empty as placing restrictive value on sex. In a sense that Mr. C and I have had sex a number of places, both with each other and others. The sex with Mr. C in a club or at a party or in the car or the den is just as awesome and valuable to me as it is when we are in the seclusion of our own bed and other people have been on the beds in clubs or at parties. To make it short; it isn't my "go-to" spot, but it also isn't a deal breaker. We also wouldn't be cuddling in our bed with play partners though, so...different discussion there.
  13. Hello All, I appreciate you kind words of encouragement and I have spoken to my husband about. After lots of consideration and thought, I have decided to go ahead and get a breast procedure done. I had a consultation with a provider who assured me that I did have some significant sagging due to pregnancy and nursing etc. so I've elected to have it done mid-September. I am not doing it for my husband, but more so for myself. I hate feeling this negatively about my post-baby body and want to feel confident again in my ability to be sexy. So, out with the old, and in with the new. Thanks so much again.
  14. Every comment here has brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for the perspective. And yes, I have considered the possibility that it could be post-partum and that theory isn't off the table for me. However, I do think this may just be a common doubt and feeling among woman with children, especially when they are relatively young (5 and under). I will continue to work at this. The conversation spawned. Between my husband and I and when asked if he'd take pre baby me or post baby me ( body wise) he said he'd choose the pre. However, he did say that if it were post baby me and another woman with the same attributes I wish I had, he'd still choose me. Respectable response. Honest but still reassuring. But that is what spawned it. He'd take me regardless, but he'd prefer the pre-baby me. I can't fault the man for his honesty, I guess it ties to don't ask questions you don't want the brutal honest answer too.
  15. I'm trying too. It ain't that easy. Especially when it's only been a year. Things are loose that shouldn't be loose, and that no amount of cardio can fix, but I appreciate the sincerity.
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