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Jare1998

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About Jare1998

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  • Birthday 12/10/1978

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  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    NC
  • Interests
    Camping especially nude!, hiking, again nude!, swimming, going to nudist resorts, roller coasters
  • Occupation
    Her - Nurse, Him - self employed
  • Swinging Experience
    2 years
  • Anniversary
    8/15/98

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  1. We just had a similar experience this past weekend. The couple we wanted to play with last year but didn't get an opportunity to were reintroduced to us over the weekend and we all seemed to hit it off great. Good conversation and we had a great time dancing and talking. But when it came time to play the guy and I had a great time but my husband just wasn't into her. They fucked but he said he just wasn't into her, even though he gave it his all. There just wasn't chemistry there to make it an awesome experience. So we decided that this will be a one and done experience. Since she is 100% straight and I'm not a girl-girl only won't happen. Sometimes it just doesn't work.
  2. I posted last year about our issue with our first couple but we've recently experienced this again. We met this really nice couple (unmarried but together for a few years) last year at our favorite resort. We became friends and went on a few trips with them, stayed in their home, etc. We had fun! After a couple trips with them we noticed that this couple seemed to have some relationship issues, made clear after our trip to their home. She confided in us that she thought he wasn't satisfied, and he basically said the same about her. After our last trip with them they had some serious communication issues and she ended up feeling upset that he played with me alone (although she played with my hubby alone first and had no problem with that). She never verbalized her displeasure but the tension was very uncomfortable with my hubby and I. We had discussed separate room play before and I was always ok with my guy playing with her alone but apparently they had not had the same discussion. He liked to text me a lot (we were ok with MF texting as we shared our messages with each other) but it started to get romantic. He wanted me to be his "girlfriend", to be his for the weekend and vise versa. We were not on board with this, getting a feeling that he was forming some kind of emotional attachement to me beyond what chemistry we had for playing. We had to stop seeing them because we were not about to get mixed up in that mess again. I think from now on we will stick to happily married couples who share our relationship priorities.
  3. Neither of us like rotten, missing, or otherwise dirty teeth. But one of my turn-ons, especially in a woman is slightly crooked teeth, it's kinda sexy. Not like teeth sticking out at odd angles but nice white teeth that are cutely imperfect. I also don't care for a shaved head in a guy. Bald is a turn off but a good personality makes up for that and I can overlook a bald head.
  4. Thanks so much for sharing your story! I was concerned about my husband's size (8") no longer fitting but I'm glad to hear you guys have had no issues! And hearing all the good outcomes is helping me to quit focusing on the "what ifs".
  5. I'm relieved to finally hear someone had a good outcome! Thanks!
  6. Hi ladies, I need some advice from women who have been through a hysterectomy either partial of total. I have been having issues for a while that prompted me to go to my gyn. She said I have adenomyosis and I may need a hysterectomy. I've been on hormones to help with the issue and from what i read this is the only "cure". Now I have read a thousand horror stories about women losing all feeling "down there", no longer able to have an orgasm, even losing nipple sensitivity. The list goes on. I've not heard many encouraging stories. I'm trying to decide what I should do. Without going into icky details I'm not sure i can deal with my symptoms any longer. What I'd like to know is what experiences everyone has had good or bad and if there were negative changes to your libido, ability to feel things, etc. how have you coped and what have those changes meant to you and your sex life. Needless to say I'm terrified of the bad. I had my tubes tied with my last kid so the not being able to get pregnant aspect does not matter to me. What I am most concerned about is never being able to enjoy sex again. I'd be devastated. Thanks for the advice in advance.
  7. Yes, it is risky to have oral sex without a condom. Yes you can get an STD from swallowing, but you can get one too just by touching an area that is infected. It's a choice you have to make based on how well you trust your play partners to be free of STDs. You can't tell by looking if someone has something or not. The CDC has the best information on the subject. I'm a communicable disease nurse and we treat oral STDs often because a condom was not used. Only you can determine the level or risk you are comfortable with. The risk of contracting something us always there.
  8. So we have always used condoms during intercourse. It did not stop me from getting trich and BV. You can get an STD from oral just as easy as from intercourse. HPV is also extremely common, with the majority of sexually active people coming in contact with it at some point in their lives. For most people, they naturally clear the HPV on their own, no treatment necessary. Some kinds cause warts, others can cause cervical cancer. Condoms will not prevent all STD's. They only help prevent certain ones like gonorrhea and chlamydia to name a couple. And they must be used 100% of the time and perfectly each time for them to work. Most people do not use them perfectly. Selective playing can lower your risk but you must be able to trust your play partners are tested. But there isn't a test for every STD. And not everyone will have symptoms. We have only ever not used condoms with one couple- the only couple we are playing with now. Yes, we are taking a risk, but we do love the feel of sex without barriers. For me it causes less vaginal dryness and irritation. I also love the feel of hot cum whether it be from my own guy or hers. We have been tested for everything there is a test for and we are clear. I can be reasonably sure we do not have an STD but you never know. We have an agreement that if we want to have sex with another couple then we will tell our current couple before we play next time so condoms can be discussed. Both guys say sex feels better bareback and both have had erection issues when using them. It would also break the mood to have to put on a new one every time we changed positions or partners. I'm a communicable disease nurse so I have easy access to testing and I am pretty knowledgeable on the topic of STDs so I know what risk we are taking. To each his own though. What works for us may not be for everyone.
  9. The Mr. Half of Jare1998 loves variety, big ones, small ones, and anything in between. He doesn't particularly like really big ones (to big to fit in his hand) but he doesn't complain to much. Point is many guys and gals like variety, hence why we are swingers, right?! I agree though, fake ones just don't feel the same as nice natural ones. I'd rather have small natural boobies than big fakers any day. I can't stand it when the fakers wrinkle and bunch up when they hang, looks awful!
  10. We prefer smooth. I wax every 4-6 weeks and hubby shaves. Neither like picking pubes out of our teeth.
  11. We had a similar situation. The guy half of our first couple was got to be sneaky, tried to kiss me when no one was looking, was always grabbing me and this was outside of playtime. He was generally just too involved. This couple also did not seem to enjoy being with each other as much, they never really touched each other or seemed to communicate. Come to find out he was cheating on her with another woman. We just got an icky feeling from him like he would have replaced her with me very easily. We are no longer friends.
  12. We have a couple we go bareback with also though we have not made anything official as far as exclusivity goes. We did agree that if we have encounters with others then we will let the other couple know as far as the bareback issue goes. Don't know if we will play with anyone else but when/if that happens we will cross that bridge when we get there. It is nice not having to use condoms! We just recently got back into swinging after taking some time off to focus on each other so we are moving slowly right now. We've only been with the one couple since we started again.
  13. Due to certain member's hurtful replies, I am requesting no more responses to this post. It is unnecessary to use such hateful words to convey your thoughts.
  14. My husband and I have been in the lifestyle for almost a year. We started by meeting a couple last year at a resort and end up with me having sex with the guy and my husband unable to do anything due to a variety of reasons, mainly because I wasn't intending to have sex with the guy at all. It just ended up that way. We had originally discussed us finding a female for us to play with as I wasn't comfortable with swapping yet. But on our first encounter it happened that the guy and I hit it off and I had sex with him while my husband, so shocked by me changing my mind in the heat of the moment, couldn't get it up to do anything with the female half. We played again later that night and it was just a repeat of what happened earlier. We stayed friends with the couple, played a fee more times, each one ending that the same. My husband had success once but it wasn't what he'd call great sex. He was jus able to do it. We've played with a few other couples now, all the same story. I can pretty much let go, do anything with the guy and he's left out. He has had body confidence issues, he has a small deformity of his chest that really robs him of his confidence but what also is the issue is me saying I wouldn't be comfortable doing such and such, but I end up doing just the opposite in the heat of the moment. I am not good at setting boundaries with people, I am definitely a people pleaser. I let the other person take the lead and not bother to stop them when we are crossing boundaries. It's an issue I need to work on but I realize that this is causing my husband a lot of issues with his trust and self esteem. He's unable to have any fun because he is worried I will be unable to say no to someone. So far he has been unsuccessful at being able to have sex with anyone, he gets distracted easily and can't keep an erection. Can anyone else relate? I need some suggestions on how to slow things down on my end and let him catch up. He really wants to be able to do this but with me going full speed ahead and leabing him behind, it is impossible for is to continue. How do I get from being a people pleaser to focusing on my husbands needs without feeling like I'm slighting the other couple by wanting to move slower and give my hubby a chance to enjoy things
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