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But I didn't get to have fun with other people either because I was busy having fun with her

Just because you like swinging and I don't doesn't make me a troll. Disagreement or not liking someone else doesn't make them a troll. That word is way too overused.

I wanted to thank everyone for the constructive answers and I've decided to try and talk to her about it in depth. It's just blown me away what's happened and what makes it worse is how she treats our daughter. I think she blames me for her autism because it's hereditary and I think she's ashamed of her. She always expects me to take care of her lately while she goes out to drink with her friends. My daughter keeps asking me if "mommy still loves me" and it's just breaking my heart. I'm torn apart here and I'm concerned my drinking is getting worse I killed a Dos Equis 6 pack in 2 days. My wife has been smoking a lot more too.

Um it is betrayal because she slept with that couple. It's been so traumatic for me and causes me panic attacks and she don't care.

I'm 26 been married to my high school sweetheart since we both turned 18 and been together since freshman year. We have a 5 year old daughter together and live in an apartment. A year ago she met some friends who were into this swinging lifestyle. She wanted to try it and I didn't because it's disgusting the idea of betraying my wife with another women. She kept hounding me so I decided to do it on a one time basis. We met a couple and my plan was to let her go in the one room and have sex with the dude to get it out of her system. I would go to the other and not do anything with the guy's wife. The guy's wife got really upset and ran into my wife and her husband's room and they had threesome. Afterward my wife was very angry at me even though I was the one who didn't cheat. She still wants to do this and it just kills me. I don't want to put our daughter through the pain of divorce like what happened to me. I've started drinking again. I actually got into a fight with the other guy weeks later because I was so angry he touched my wife. We both went to jail and now I have to take 26 anger management classes on a diversion program. I'm so depressed because I remember when me and my wife were the best of friends. We never really liked sex that much but I loved preforming oral on her and pleasuring her for hours. Now she won't even let me touch her or sleep in same bed. It seems like if I don't swing with her she will leave me. She said she blames me for "stealing her youth" because she married "too young" but she genuinely loved me and said yes when I proposed to her when we were 17. I miss how we were a team and the best of friends. What do I need to do to get her to stop wanting to cheat? Is it basically the reason people want to swing because their partner isn't good enough in bed? I've always been the type of lover that puts her needs first. But I can't do this because it's so painful to think of her with another man and because I love her so much I feel guilty for even admiring another women's beauty.