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  1. Hi there! I definitely understand the concern! However, speaking as an almost-30 pair, we wouldn't rule out 60 year olds! Age is a number; if the physical and intellectual attraction is there, I couldn't care less what the birth certificate says! Hell, I've seen 50's, 60's, 70's in better physical shape than 21 year olds! (I - female half - actually have a shy crush on good looking silver foxes, and would welcome the opportunity to explore it!). If you're concerned that they might be playing a cruel game, maybe you could test the waters by sending them a message prior to meeting. Perhaps comment about how you were flattered that they reached out, and would they like to exchange more revealing photos before meeting? It at least would give you some more information and a chance to gauge the situation. On the other hand, I also totally understand your wife's concern! If you both are willing to even ENTERTAIN this couple, maybe discuss not doing full-swap with the Other Lady. On the other-other hand, I feel like a lot of swinger women (myself included) use a hormonal birth control back-up (IUD, the Pill) in addition to condoms for precisely that reason. Depends what you're ultimately willing to risk, and how much you trust the Other Woman to protect herself in case the condom fails. Let us know what you decide to do!
  2. Hello, Swingers and Lovers! Got a question for ya. Some of my favorite fantasies have been about multiple men, multiple penetrations, gangbangs, etc. Trouble is, all of our established play-partners have been couples. (Also, most of the women have said that anal is off-limits for them to enjoy, which makes me feel like I'd be one-upping them if I asked for it). I can't help but feel like I would be selfish to ask the women to "give up" their husbands for an evening to focus on me, and to help me explore some multiple-penetration fantasies. (I know I would feel a little lonely if my husband were catering exclusively to another woman, and I would certainly want to be there!). Should we pick out single guys?! ALSO, does DVP work with condoms? (For friction reasons). Or would it have to be bareback? Feedback appreciated! :-)
  3. Hey there, Thanks! I feel the same way. I'm also impatient with myself, which leads to some very unsettling scenes for bystanders if they see me telling myself that I'm not allowed to be impatient, yadda yadda. ;-) Humor aside, we've been working through soft-swap for the better part of a year, with the mentality of "Have the experience so you know what's real or not about what you think it is," and I've *loved it* as long as I've felt like my husband has been actively rooting me on and keeping tabs on me. (If that's not too pathetic? It sounds pathetic). I keep ramping myself up to it, getting close to take-off, then in the days or hours before, having second thoughts, aaaaannnnd back down we go, back to the starting line for another round. I'd like to think it's not as bad as I've made it sound, but it's taken the better part of a year and if I'M impatient with myself, I can only imagine hubby's "are we doing this or not? Because I'll get over my hormones in a few days if we're not, but I'm getting the feeling that you don't really actually want this and I'm tired of feeling like I'm the one pushing you, or making you do/be someone you don't want to do/be." Should I continue to think about this deeply, philosophically, until I feel like I really know myself and I'm okay with the Big Picture Philosophy and How This Changes The Definition of Sex And Making Love, talking through each and all of my fears about this, etc, or just put blinders on and say "you're trying to apply vanilla-world rules to the lifestyle-world. It doesn't compute. Have faith in the fact that you liked getting eaten out by another man and liked seeing another woman suck hubby, and actually have the damn experience!" ?
  4. Hi Glida Couple, A lot about your post resonated with me. How did you feel/what did you feel, then, if/when you did your first full swap?
  5. Hey all, I'm wondering if someone who has "Been there, done them" could give me some mentoring advice. I'm the "wife" half. I came from a VERY conservative background - the first guy I kissed and fucked was my husband, although he came from a much more secular background. The Christian ideals of purity/sex within marriage/sex=love, in all of its various moods, etc, was/is very much a part of who I am. Or who I thought I was. (I'm now an atheist, but hey, some behavioral and psychological patterns are hard to shake). I REALLY REALLY like the idea of swinging, gangbangs, the whole kaboodle. But the opportunity has come to do a full swap with a couple we connect with wonderfully on a personal level and all the rest, and ..... I think I have cold feet. I keep thinking, "What if it's just not for me? What if I do this, and I suddenly feel dirty and disgusting, despite the irrationality of it? What if I look over and feel a heart-deep pain at seeing my husband fucking another woman? What if, what if, what if?" I've tried talking to my husband about it, but he quite honestly tells me that it "does not compute." He doesn't understand why I'm afraid, and is getting very impatient with me, and I feel like in the process of him trying to help me reason it out, he's ridiculing the belief system that was integrated into my personality, and therefore me. I feel really ashamed and broken, like my sex drive is somehow missing the final piece of the puzzle. I feel like I can't talk to anyone because, well, we don't have any older friends in the lifestyle yet. I feel like I can't talk to my husband, because he "wants to finish what he started" with this other girl/couple and as if he'd resent me. I'm trying to explore/transform myself and make us both happy with the result, but I feel like I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't at this point. I don't want to cause drama either way, and I feel disgusted and ashamed of myself for waffling when my head knows there's no good reason for jealousy, possessiveness, or one-cock-only-pussy. Any advice? I'm sorry for the melodrama, but I'm really freaking out and kinda hating my latent vanilla-ness. Should I just grit my teeth and take the plunge? If it doesn't go well in the initial "aftershock," do I not share it? Is there some magical "you are now ready, young padawan!" point I should be waiting for?
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