Technically, we're not married yet. We're common-law right now but we both refer to each other as husband/wife, fiance. Anyways, I've been reading about this lifestyle and I'm intrigued. I'd like to bring it up and see if my wife would consider it. I'm really not sure how she'll react, and here's why.
1. On one hand, she is the more sexually adventurous one - by far. She did porn before we were together. She even told me that when she changed in her bedroom that she got excited when she noticed a neighbor looking through the window (from their own house) and didn't mind. There's no doubt she loves being admired and is comfortable in front of other people.
2. On the other hand, there is this timing issue. We just found out we're having a baby. No, I don't plan on getting into this lifestyle before the baby is born. However, I'm wondering if I should wait until after it's born to even bring it up. I know she's becoming more self-conscious about her body and I don't want her to think this is about me wanting someone else. It's really about something to spice up our life together.
3. We're both a little insecure and jealous. I've read that this sort of lifestyle, if approached properly, can help alleviate those feelings of jealousy and couples become closer and more comfortable. I'm an open-minded guy but I've always told her a hard limit for me was bringing more people into our sexual equation. I'm not sure what's come over me lately but the thought of the two of us sharing each other with like minded people really turns me on. I really have to force myself to imagine her with someone else, to try to imagine the sensation. I'd hate for it to backfire in a jealous rage but I don't think that will happen, though it may take some getting used to. It's about personal growth.
Anyways, would love to hear your thoughts on this. How you got started. Did it help with jealousy or make it worse? Did it help or create any sexual insecurities?
Hope to hear from you.
